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Old 04-10-2012, 08:03 PM
 
Location: southern california
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when my kid brother has behavioral issues with his kids when they visit, they are his children (butt out).
but when he is worried about paying their way thru college, they are my nephews.
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Old 04-10-2012, 08:37 PM
 
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No, not all parents have a sense of entitlement. I wouldn't neccessarily call in entitlement, though. Sometimes, you would like for someone to step in and help. Sometimes, you don't want to have to ask or beg, you just want someone to see you struggling and offer to help out. I'm a single parent, both of my parents are deceased, so all I have is my siblings. I don't EXPECT their help. I basically do it all by myself, with no break. No one has ever offered to take my dd for a weekend or a day to give me a break. If I ask them to, they might say yes, depending on their own schedule. But that's usually only if I have to work, not just to give me a break. In moments of frustration or pure exhaustion, I do wish that they would help out more. But I know that I made my choices, and I'm living with them. I do the best I can, and have found by expecting nothing, I'm seldom disappointed.

From what you describe, you are a great uncle and doing more than your fair share. I would take your siblings complaints with a grain of salt. Loneliness, frustration, and depression can make people say all kinds of things. Just keep doing what you're doing for the kids. I'm sure they're the ones who appreciate you most.
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Old 04-10-2012, 10:20 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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I am a giver. I am never ever a taker. And I hate to be surrounded by takers who feel ENTITLED to be given to.
You need to be more of a taker. Otherwise they will keep asking you for help without ever having to repay the favor. If they know your help has a price, it becomes more valuable and they demand it less often.
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Old 04-10-2012, 11:15 PM
 
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I am a giver. I am never ever a taker. And I hate to be surrounded by takers who feel ENTITLED to be given to.
Nobody likes a martyr.

It is just as unhealthy to do nothing but give as it is to do nothing but take. If you want a healthy family you need to be willing to let others help you.
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Old 04-10-2012, 11:21 PM
 
Location: here
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I am a giver. I am never ever a taker. And I hate to be surrounded by takers who feel ENTITLED to be given to.
I bet there are things they could do for you to even it out a bit. Do they invite you over for a home-cooked meal? Do you travel? They could house sit or pet sit for you. They could give you a ride when your car is in the shop. It is nice to have family around when you need help.
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