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Barbaric little monsters ring the necks of other human beings...keep your kid clear and safe of the mutant monkeys in the future. They are out there..not everyone is civilized...some people are mad animals and raise their kids to be the same.
I hope that in the interim months the OP has tried to do a better job teaching her child about boundaries and self respect. When someone tries to murder you the response should not be jumping on the phone and texting with your assailant.
Why the hell the girl did not immediately tell a teacher or go to the school nurse is simply baffling. Unless of course there are some aspects of the story that are not being reported accurately...
...This is what's wrong with this country. We always want other people to clean up our messes.
Let's get a couple of things straight. Everyone is calling this other girl a bully. This whole debacle started when your daughter pushed a boy in front of a moving swing. If I had been on that swing I would have been rightly terrified. Physics is physics and that boy was fortunate not to get hurt at all. The only thing that separates your daughter's bullying from the other girl's bullying was that your daughter was hurt and the young man wasn't.
Teenagers do stupid things. They've been doing stupid things since teenagers existed. They will continue to do stupid things long after we finally reach the stars. Involving others is simply going to traumatize two kids who were being kids. If your daughter is texting back and forth with this other girl, then this is obviously a bigger deal to you than it was to her.
I can understand limiting contact. But I'm really interested in how you will be punishing your daughter for her bullying.
So you knew this girl was poorly behaved and had no parents gor all intents and purposes. U should have stopped ur daughter from socializing with her a long time ago. This was an incident waiting to happen. Exercise better judgemt about who u let ur daughter socialize with.
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Originally Posted by Rainbow Connection
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well... ever come across a parent who thinks their kid is right no matter what. better yet, REFUSES to EVER discipline her children! Several before me had approached the mother concerning the other daughter's behavior.
examples :cursing out a pool attendant for not allowing her to enter the pool as a minor after she lied and said she was much older.. After she SNUCK in while pool attendant was getting charcoal from hut.. She was not allowed in pool area for a week. The mother's response ( instead of teaching her daughter to be honest) "Those @$^#^$ !!! could have let you in!!!"
ANYONE who has ever approached the mother about anything concerning her kids has been told either "I DON'T WANT TO HEAR IT!!!" Or after asking to come in to talk about a matter concerning the child, will get a simple door slammed in their face !!
BTW. my daughter will no longer be allowed to associate with that girl again! i told her when you see her coming turn and go the other way !! ( although she did do that yesterday and the girl ran up on her INSISTING she talk!) luckily i was looking outside and asked my daughter while looking at bully "is everything alright?" then my daughter left with her other friends.
My daughter is 13 years old. Her friend is 13. My daughter is 4'11. Her friend is 5'7.
2 days ago, the two of them were at the playround. There were 2 other friends there. My daughter in joking, pushed a boy in front of the swing while her friend was swinging. Not even enough to reach my daughter's friend. There was never any physical contact.
It was horse play. And my daughter should have used better judgement in case the boy did not get out the way. She was wrong. somone could have gotten hurt!!
My daughter's friend jumped off the swing and told my daughter "YOU COULD HAVE KILLED ME!!!' again there was never any contact on either side. She grabbed my daughter from behind ( she towers over my daughter! ) and put my kid in a choke hold. (her arm bent around my daughter neck and restricting air from the windpipe) !!!! even though my daughter pleaded and begged her too, because she was in pain and felt dizzy like she was going to pass out!
Then the girl grabs my daughter by her THROAT, and throws her on the ground !!
It was so bad the other 2 kids ran over and asked if my daughter was alright. they later told me the story just as my daughter did. and were just as shocked about this girl's behavior. My daughter came home crying. She was terrified. She said "Mom i couldn't BREATHE !!!" And she was even more terrifed that she was thrown on the ground with such force! -By her neck. I looked at her throat and it was red. and red at her windpipe where this girl had her other arm in a fist hold over her windpipe.
My daughter is now having a text arguement with this girl. The girl INSISTS my daughter i making a mountain out of a mole hil. Saying it was not a big deal. repeatedly texting "STOP whining"! And says if my kid was hurt so bad, WHY was she outside the next day!!
Please give me your thoughts.This will help my daughter as well. She belives her friend is wrong. But confused becasue her friend is not taking responsibility. So my daughter is second guessing her feelings. My daughter need your help to to process this.
I already gave her my thoughts. I told her with regards to the girl choking my baby, " I am handing out behind whippins and lollipops! And tonight I am ALLLL out of lollipops!"
Thanks in advance!!
We really can't help you without being there.
It could have been just a matter of the taller girl not understanding how much the height difference contributes to the added power.
The "STOP whining!" comments are a little excessive, but nothing unusual.
I do believe that her comment, "if my kid was hurt so bad, WHY was she outside the next day!!" is instructive. If it was a serious injury, your daughter would be in the possible, not playing outside.
I wouldn't encourage your daughter to continue playing with her, but there's no reason to really get involved.
Thread is from April 2012. The issue has probably been resolved.
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