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Old 04-28-2012, 11:44 PM
 
Location: On the Ohio River in Western, KY
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Yeah...I need to relax here. She is a great kid. They all are. This group is either here (eating me out of house and home), hanging out at the park or over at his house either playing pool or sitting around the camp fire.

Now for the other part of my delemma. The girls who plan on lying to their parents to go. I told dd to tell them not to do it. A compromise is a really late bon fire....that may go into the next morning ...followed by a sleep over at our house. Do I tell their parents if they decide to lie to them??? Dd will not be happy with me if I do and she told me in confidence. I'm thinking their parents will say no. One girl never goes home except to sleep. Dd tells me her home life is miserable. The other has a mom who is convinced that the reason she goes to the park every day is to smoke weed . I'm thinking bon fire and sleep over at my house....the question will be what time I pick them up from the bon fire.
Eh, I would initally call the parents and ask about a sleep over at your house, then go from there.

As for the time to pick them up, have the brother call. I wouldn't set an exact time, since they might want to sleep either earlier our later than the time you might set.
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Old 04-29-2012, 03:22 PM
 
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I am sooo glad I keep a close eye on what goes on with my kids. The parents of other kids give me worry, because of the lack of parenting that some exhibit.

I really feel sorry for the naive parents of a 14 year boy OR girl who thinks that if left fireside under the stars for a night with a mixed group, there is an assurance of angelic behavior because the kids are "good". Good kids experiment, and a parents job is to help keep that experimentation somewhat limited by HAVING LIMITS!!

And it's not always the boy is the most experienced. Being "good" does not trump hormones, nor the desire for a teen to want to be popular.

By the way, don't think that the kids cannot get their pot in ways that don't smell. Ever hear of brownies? Oh, those "good" friends wouldn't do that? Think again, and chances are if you rounded up all the parents together, you'd find at least one of them a baker.

If you think it is OK for 14 year olds to be able to experiment with what-all, then just say so. But if you are naively thinking that your "good" child won't do so if given a chance, and a bit of peer pressure, well, you are off track.
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Old 04-29-2012, 03:54 PM
 
Location: Unknown. Where am I? Am I lost?
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I am sooo glad I keep a close eye on what goes on with my kids. The parents of other kids give me worry, because of the lack of parenting that some exhibit.

I really feel sorry for the naive parents of a 14 year boy OR girl who thinks that if left fireside under the stars for a night with a mixed group, there is an assurance of angelic behavior because the kids are "good". Good kids experiment, and a parents job is to help keep that experimentation somewhat limited by HAVING LIMITS!!

And it's not always the boy is the most experienced. Being "good" does not trump hormones, nor the desire for a teen to want to be popular.

By the way, don't think that the kids cannot get their pot in ways that don't smell. Ever hear of brownies? Oh, those "good" friends wouldn't do that? Think again, and chances are if you rounded up all the parents together, you'd find at least one of them a baker.

If you think it is OK for 14 year olds to be able to experiment with what-all, then just say so. But if you are naively thinking that your "good" child won't do so if given a chance, and a bit of peer pressure, well, you are off track.
How dare you be dissin' on those special brownies!!!!
LOL
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Old 04-29-2012, 03:56 PM
 
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I am sooo glad I keep a close eye on what goes on with my kids. The parents of other kids give me worry, because of the lack of parenting that some exhibit.

I really feel sorry for the naive parents of a 14 year boy OR girl who thinks that if left fireside under the stars for a night with a mixed group, there is an assurance of angelic behavior because the kids are "good". Good kids experiment, and a parents job is to help keep that experimentation somewhat limited by HAVING LIMITS!!

And it's not always the boy is the most experienced. Being "good" does not trump hormones, nor the desire for a teen to want to be popular.

By the way, don't think that the kids cannot get their pot in ways that don't smell. Ever hear of brownies? Oh, those "good" friends wouldn't do that? Think again, and chances are if you rounded up all the parents together, you'd find at least one of them a baker.

If you think it is OK for 14 year olds to be able to experiment with what-all, then just say so. But if you are naively thinking that your "good" child won't do so if given a chance, and a bit of peer pressure, well, you are off track.
Lets see, growing up I had friends who smoked, I knew kids who smoked pot, I knew kids who drank...
I was allowed to drink at home so that wasn't an issue, I never did outside the house till I was 18+ but I never tried drugs or cigarettes when I was a teen, never even if I was offered or around it, never tried it then.
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Old 04-29-2012, 05:09 PM
 
Location: On a Voyage Around the Sun
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How dare you be dissin' on those special brownies!!!!
LOL
Ummm... Not a lot to joke about when we're talking about 14-year-old's using pot.
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Old 04-29-2012, 05:18 PM
 
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Ummm... Not a lot to joke about when we're talking about 14-year-old's using pot.
You really think I am serious?
It's a joke. Big deal, not like its happening.
I know a 14 year old with a medical marijuana card for fibromyalga.
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Old 04-29-2012, 05:23 PM
 
Location: On a Voyage Around the Sun
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I know a 14 year old with a medical marijuana card for fibromyalga.
That's not the discussion.

The discussion is 14-year old's getting high with their friends. Personally, I'm not OK with that.

It's one of the reasons I'd ixnay the all-nighter, BTW.
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Old 04-29-2012, 05:45 PM
 
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That's not the discussion.

The discussion is 14-year old's getting high with their friends. Personally, I'm not OK with that.

It's one of the reasons I'd ixnay the all-nighter, BTW.
Yeah but who says they do drugs?
If these are kids who have never showed signs before why would they start now?
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Old 04-29-2012, 06:00 PM
 
Location: hunt valley
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That's not the discussion.

The discussion is 14-year old's getting high with their friends. Personally, I'm not OK with that.

It's one of the reasons I'd ixnay the all-nighter, BTW.
They will get high regardless DDI. Believe me if a kid has in his/her mind that want to smoke they will do it whenever they get the chance.
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Old 04-29-2012, 06:09 PM
 
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They will get high regardless DDI. Believe me if a kid has in his/her mind that want to smoke they will do it whenever they get the chance.
Did you know they give off kids school in colorado on 4/20, I know because of the threats made every year for that day but its hilarious all the high schools get to stay home and smoke pot on that day.
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