Boy-Girl all night parties (mother, father, grow up, sister)

[txtqueen]

Originally Posted by seain dublin

You're assuming there will even be parents there. I think this is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard of.

The brother who has custody of the boy hosting the party is going to be there, based on what was said about his mother, the older brother sounds like he would do a better job.

Don't assume just because its a parent it will do a good job, there are some brothers and sisters who take on younger siblings who are more strict on them than their parents ever were.

[Blazah1080]

Originally Posted by txtqueen

The brother who has custody of the boy hosting the party is going to be there, based on what was said about his mother, the older brother sounds like he would do a better job.

Don't assume just because its a parent it will do a good job, there are some brothers and sisters who take on younger siblings who are more strict on them than their parents ever were.

This proves how much of a dream world you live in.

In reality the older brother will have bought the beer and supplied the pot.. with a 5% markup.. this is how it IS.

[txtqueen]

Originally Posted by Blazah1080

This proves how much of a dream world you live in.

In reality the older brother will have bought the beer and supplied the pot.. with a 5% markup.. this is how it IS.

In what reality?
If my younger brother moved in with me there is NO WAY IN HELL he would be allowed to do the things he does now.
A) I am 22, I am selfish, my generation looks out for themselves, which is why I would not be willing to go to jail for his shenanigans.
B) His ass would not be out past town curfew, no way is he having the cops drag him home to where I lived, getting me in trouble. Knowing what my brother does, he'd be home by midnight and his friends could come over if they were quite. Day he turned 18, it would be lifted, he would be responsible not me.
C) There would be no drugs, no smoking, no nothing with him and his friends in my house. Again I am not going to jail for them to have a good time. They all smoke cigs and pot at my mom's no way in hell would that go on in a house my name was on.
D) His girlfriend who is like a year and a half younger would not be sleeping over. He wants to hit 18 and have someone 18 spend the night, go on ahead but even now with her not even being the age of consent no way in hell would that be going on in my house.
5) He'd also be going to school on a regular basis, WITH a full schedule not this 3 something hours a day he does because he convinced the school to only give him the necessary classes somehow.

I know a lot of people who have younger siblings living with them and I knew a lot of people who did when I was younger, their siblings were just as strict if not worse than their parents or were total opposites where the parents gave no rules and the older sibling was super crazy strict.


What you're talking about....I see on tv and the movies. The cool older brother or sister getting alcohol or pot but in real life usually those sibling are bitter strict *******s who don't let their younger siblings step out of line because their life went from fun to parenting teens and they aren't about to let their younger sibling screw it up.

[eastwesteastagain]

Originally Posted by txtqueen

In what reality?
If my younger brother moved in with me there is NO WAY IN HELL he would be allowed to do the things he does now.
A) I am 22, I am selfish, my generation looks out for themselves, which is why I would not be willing to go to jail for his shenanigans.
B) His ass would not be out past town curfew, no way is he having the cops drag him home to where I lived, getting me in trouble. Knowing what my brother does, he'd be home by midnight and his friends could come over if they were quite. Day he turned 18, it would be lifted, he would be responsible not me.
C) There would be no drugs, no smoking, no nothing with him and his friends in my house. Again I am not going to jail for them to have a good time. They all smoke cigs and pot at my mom's no way in hell would that go on in a house my name was on.
D) His girlfriend who is like a year and a half younger would not be sleeping over. He wants to hit 18 and have someone 18 spend the night, go on ahead but even now with her not even being the age of consent no way in hell would that be going on in my house.
5) He'd also be going to school on a regular basis, WITH a full schedule not this 3 something hours a day he does because he convinced the school to only give him the necessary classes somehow.

I know a lot of people who have younger siblings living with them and I knew a lot of people who did when I was younger, their siblings were just as strict if not worse than their parents or were total opposites where the parents gave no rules and the older sibling was super crazy strict.


What you're talking about....I see on tv and the movies. The cool older brother or sister getting alcohol or pot but in real life usually those sibling are bitter strict *******s who don't let their younger siblings step out of line because their life went from fun to parenting teens and they aren't about to let their younger sibling screw it up.

Don't look now, txt, but I think you just said "my house, my rules."

FWIW, I think you raise a fair point.

[Ivorytickler]

Originally Posted by Blazah1080

This proves how much of a dream world you live in.

In reality the older brother will have bought the beer and supplied the pot.. with a 5% markup.. this is how it IS.

Not with this group of kids.

[Ivorytickler]

Originally Posted by Mattie

Nope, not at that age. I did allow my sons to attend them as HS seniors, for better or worse, I thought they would handle themselves appropriately (they did).

The fact that some of the kids are lying to their parents in order to attend is a huge red flag to me. Why hasn't anybody called the parents of the host to see what type of supervision will be provided?

I would be more open to extending the curfew and picking her up at 1:00.

It's not to me because I know the parents, however, I won't tolerate it and I've told dd that. I've told her to talk to her friends about lying to their parents and to ask them if they really want to betray their parents trust and, possibly, never be trusted again. If push comes to shove, I will contact the parents. Dd knows this so I'm thinking if it comes down to these girls lying, it just won't be an all night party. It will be an out until 1:00 followed by a slumber party at my house party.

[Lucidkitty]

Originally Posted by Blazah1080

This proves how much of a dream world you live in.

In reality the older brother will have bought the beer and supplied the pot.. with a 5% markup.. this is how it IS.

You make a lot of broad assumptions in your posts that have nearly no basis in reality whatsoever.

[psr13]

Originally Posted by Blazah1080

This proves how much of a dream world you live in.

In reality the older brother will have bought the beer and supplied the pot.. with a 5% markup.. this is how it IS.

It depends. The brother could be way older. He is probably isn't, but he could be. My husband was raised by his sister, and she's my parents' ages while he's just a few years older than I. His sister was way stricter than just about any parent I've ever known.

[Blazah1080]

Originally Posted by txtqueen

In what reality?
If my younger brother moved in with me there is NO WAY IN HELL he would be allowed to do the things he does now.
A) I am 22, I am selfish, my generation looks out for themselves, which is why I would not be willing to go to jail for his shenanigans.
B) His ass would not be out past town curfew, no way is he having the cops drag him home to where I lived, getting me in trouble. Knowing what my brother does, he'd be home by midnight and his friends could come over if they were quite. Day he turned 18, it would be lifted, he would be responsible not me.
C) There would be no drugs, no smoking, no nothing with him and his friends in my house. Again I am not going to jail for them to have a good time. They all smoke cigs and pot at my mom's no way in hell would that go on in a house my name was on.
D) His girlfriend who is like a year and a half younger would not be sleeping over. He wants to hit 18 and have someone 18 spend the night, go on ahead but even now with her not even being the age of consent no way in hell would that be going on in my house.
5) He'd also be going to school on a regular basis, WITH a full schedule not this 3 something hours a day he does because he convinced the school to only give him the necessary classes somehow.

I know a lot of people who have younger siblings living with them and I knew a lot of people who did when I was younger, their siblings were just as strict if not worse than their parents or were total opposites where the parents gave no rules and the older sibling was super crazy strict.


What you're talking about....I see on tv and the movies. The cool older brother or sister getting alcohol or pot but in real life usually those sibling are bitter strict *******s who don't let their younger siblings step out of line because their life went from fun to parenting teens and they aren't about to let their younger sibling screw it up.

You are a female, it's impossible for you to be an older brother. Trust me, older brothers are not like that. I'm not saying it's a good thing.

[Blazah1080]

Originally Posted by psr13

It depends. The brother could be way older. He is probably isn't, but he could be. My husband was raised by his sister, and she's my parents' ages while he's just a few years older than I. His sister was way stricter than just about any parent I've ever known.

Older brothers were the ones who got us stuff when we were teens. They would help us pull things off that we wouldn't have been able to alone... I do not remember older sisters helping much...maybe that's the difference.

I speak from my own personal experience. As teenagers older brothers NEVER once got myfriends and I in trouble... it just wasn't like that.