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Old 04-26-2012, 06:52 PM
 
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I have one of those kids I could trust doing something like this so I understand your dilemma. I would not be comfortable either even though I can trust my DD. I probably would've suggested the compromise also, maybe picking her up at 1 or 2am instead of the all night thing. You want to reward them for being trust worthy but I would be a little worried that they would do something "big" to memorialize the last night of them all being together. Not necessarily bad but also something that they wouldn't ordinarily do. That's what would be going through my thoughts anyway. I also would not be comfortable knowing the other girls are lying to their parents, to me that doesn't make them very good "good" kids, ya know what I mean?
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Old 04-26-2012, 06:52 PM
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Good idea, either way she isn't getting any sleep that night because if she lets her daughter go she won't get any sleep, if she doesn't let her go she'll have an angry child keeping her up all night begging to go.

But you have to ask? If her back yard as cool?
Is there a fire pit, lots of room, and fun stuff to do.
Who sits up all night begging to go to a party when they are told no o.O?
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Old 04-26-2012, 06:53 PM
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I have one of those kids I could trust doing something like this so I understand your dilemma. I would not be comfortable either even though I can trust my DD. I probably would've suggested the compromise also, maybe picking her up at 1 or 2am instead of the all night thing. You want to reward them for being trust worthy but I would be a little worried that they would do something "big" to memorialize the last night of them all being together. Not necessarily bad but also something that they wouldn't ordinarily do. That's what would be going through my thoughts anyway. I also would not be comfortable knowing the other girls are lying to their parents, to me that doesn't make them very good "good" kids, ya know what I mean?

Then again why would they do it at 3 and not at 1?
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Old 04-26-2012, 06:54 PM
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And yet a good number of these "great" kids are fully willing to lie to their parents to get what they want.
Well i mean the dynamics of families is all different. A lot of parents have the misconception that these parties turn into orgies .
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Old 04-26-2012, 06:55 PM
 
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Who sits up all night begging to go to a party when they are told no o.O?
Someone desperate to attend an event for a friend moving away?
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Old 04-26-2012, 06:56 PM
 
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Saying no does not always indicate lack of trust or suspicion. It is a parent's job to consider whether activities are appropriate. Things canbe inappropriate or poor choices for all kinds of reasons.
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Old 04-26-2012, 06:59 PM
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Someone desperate to attend an event for a friend moving away?
She sounds like a mature kid so while she might be bummed i doubt she would act like that. Any teen freaking all night because they missed a few extra hours of a party is a bit of a spoiled brat
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Old 04-26-2012, 07:00 PM
 
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Because some of the best ideas aren't hatched until you've exhausted all the other things to do. I don't think they have anything big planned but after they've had their bonfire and played some games and they start getting tired and are just sitting around talking, that's when the "know what would be cool to do?" talks start happening. At least that's how it went when I was a kid. We would sneak out and do all sorts of bad things and it was never until way late at night, usually to make sure the parents were sleeping.
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Old 04-26-2012, 07:01 PM
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Saying no does not always indicate lack of trust or suspicion. It is a parent's job to consider whether activities are appropriate. Things canbe inappropriate or poor choices for all kinds of reasons.

Very true, though i have found when it comes to these parties often parents seem to act in reactionary methods and assume things. I think the problem is the trend of co ed things like sleepovers is so new to the mainstream that parents often have no memories themselves to draw upon.
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Old 04-26-2012, 07:03 PM
 
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Well, you definitely can't let her go without telling the other parents. Can you imagine that if (when?.....) the other parents find out about it, and then hear you knew? Chances are good they will be livid that you didn't contact them and instead decided for all the parents that it was ok to have the sleep over.

I support compromise. All parents must be told, and let them stay out very very late and all the girls sleep over at your house.
I think this is the best idea.
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