What is YOUR Affection Level for Your Parents (husband, college, mother)

[psr13]

Would I be relieved if my dad or grandma died? No way. Of course I would miss them. I have fond feelings for them and strong dislike for things about them. You can have both.

[Sunnysee]

Both of my parents were fabulous, and I had a truly personal, close relationship with both of them. So did a lot of other folks, my two sisters included.

Our home was the place to go, phone rang off of the wall and the Mr. Coffee had a warm cup to offer to anyone that dropped by or we were expecting.

Both of my sisters husbands and my own, all three preferred my parents to their own, but two of them still honored theirs and did spend time with them.

I just have this to always remember to thank God for. It sickens me to think of how many don't or didn't have good parents. I sometimes see a kid walking up the street after school, backpack full and they may seem to be walking slowly, or I'll see them sitting on a curb. Sure, could be for any reason, but I sometimes wonder if they are avoiding their home environment.

[imcurious]

Originally Posted by Sunnysee

Both of my parents were fabulous, and I had a truly personal, close relationship with both of them. So did a lot of other folks, my two sisters included.

Our home was the place to go, phone rang off of the wall and the Mr. Coffee had a warm cup to offer to anyone that dropped by or we were expecting.

Both of my sisters husbands and my own, all three preferred my parents to their own, but two of them still honored theirs and did spend time with them.

I just have this to always remember to thank God for. It sickens me to think of how many don't or didn't have good parents. I sometimes see a kid walking up the street after school, backpack full and they may seem to be walking slowly, or I'll see them sitting on a curb. Sure, could be for any reason, but I sometimes wonder if they are avoiding their home environment.

You are extremely fortunate.

[txtqueen]

My mom and I have a lot of issues with each other but she is my mom and I do love her, I just wish she acted differently. She's always been a little lacking on the emotional stuff as I have gotten older, she is a very vengeful and vindictive person. She is aggressive and hits as well.

I wish I felt like my mom cared about me more, she often tells me she doesn't how she can't wait for my brother to be out as well, I love who she used to be but who she is now is very hard to get along with.

I wouldn't say I detest her but I can't be around her for too long before she starts trying to pick fights.

[Pitt Chick]

Love both, even though Dad is no longer with us.

I didn't always get along with them, often disagreed on their methods, etc... but love, yeah, that was always there.

[maggie2101]

I loved both of my parents. My dad wasn't around much, but I still loved him. They passed away in 1985 and 1987.

[AnnaNomus]

Love my mom very much. She died 4 years ago and I miss her every single day. She was sick much of my childhood, but she always put her illnesses on the back burner to make sure we were taken care of. She never complained. If she did complain, you knew she was in agony at that point. Her pain and discomfort she put aside, put a big smile on her face, and enjoyed every moment she could of her life.

My father died before I was born. I do know that you can miss what you never had, especially knowing that he was a good father and husband. I don't dwell much on what my life would have been life if he had lived, it's too depressing. I am just greatful I had such a wonderful mom.

[Three Wolves In Snow]

Sunnysee, yes, some of us were avoiding.

I can't answer in your poll except for, "other". I don't "detest" them, I just don't even care anymore. I'm not going to get in to all of the gory details as to why, will just say, "hell with all of 'em".

[Dad_loves_to_cook]

I tolerate both of my parents. I live 12 hours from them and for very good reason. As a child I was mocked and ridiculed regularly. That kept going on into my young adulthood. After I married at 30 they became judgemental of my wife, and then my parenting skills. My parents were rarely around when I was a kid and they are only accessible to their children and grandchildren on their terms. I do not detest them now, but do tolerate them for my kid's sake.

We visited last summer after not seeing them for 3 years. Kid's really wanted to see family and so since my siblings were all going to be there I agreed. After our visit my 8 year old son who was the one who really wanted to go said, "Dad, I understand now why we don't visit them. I don't want to go back." We are headed back this summer for a family reunion and I'm already trying to figure out how long I really have to be around them.

I made a conscious choice to be completely different than them. I spend a lot of time with my kids, tell them as much as possible how much I love them and love spending time with them. I hope and pray they will want to be around me after they leave home. I also tell them I am so thankful God chose me to be their Dad. He could've chosen anyone and he blessed me with each of them. When in bed at night and they're having a rough day I ask them, "where's the safest place in the entire world?" The answer they've learned over the years, "in my daddy's arms."

[forum_browser]

I love both of my parents very much. Unfortunately, Dad passed away many years ago, and only Mom is still here.