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My parents are perfect. Not that they are rich but they are the most loving, supportive, mild mannered, giving people I ever met. There is absolutely no expectations from them for my sister and I to act and live a certain way. They let us live our life the way we wish. There has never been any guilt trips, only support. I could never ask for better and more perfect parents. They are true role models.
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Love mom who is still alive. Respect my dead dad as my father, but absolutely despise him at times for some of the things he put me through and generally loving his alcohol more than me at times.
Wow im sorry buddy....... I feel your dad had a drinking problem he couldnt get a grip on...... (Im sure he didnt mean to be that way to you) -- Try not to hold bad thoughts too much about him......
My mom died when I was 12, but I was a total mama's boy before she died. After she died, it came to light that my dad had a whole other family with 4 other kids. He completely abandoned me and my older sister after my mom died. Needless to say, I haven't spoken to my father since March 2002.
My mom died when I was 12, but I was a total mama's boy before she died. After she died, it came to light that my dad had a whole other family with 4 other kids. He completely abandoned me and my older sister after my mom died. Needless to say, I haven't spoken to my father since March 2002.
I'm sorry to hear that. Who took care of you after she died?
Don't you want to confront your father someday and give him a piece of your mind?
I had a screwed up childhood as a kid, did not have much of a quality family life, I got stuck with all the chores, mowing grass, shoveling snow, anything that needed to be done around the house. My brother never did anything he was spoiled. My dad was like Col. Frank Fitts from American Beauty and my mom was like Carolyn Burnham, very materialistic, had to have the best of everything and one up family and friends. I was expected to keep the yard perfect, the cars had to look new and the house had to be perfectly clean at all times, how others perceived my parents was very important to them.
Now because of this I had completely different priorities when I had my daughter, I made sure she had a childhood and she knew her parents cared about her and I never placed unrealistic expectations of perfection on her. I let her have pets and have her friends over and never put money and things ahead of her.
My mom is gone my dad lives out of state. I have no brothers or sisters. My dad just lost his wife, my stepmom, a couple of months ago.
He's really needy for me now... I'm trying to be there for him... it's tough.... my life with him growing up can best be summarized by Harry Chapin.
It's taking a certain level of maturity that I didn't have in my 20's and 30's to be able to interact with my father now. I never had a great relationship with him, wasn't bad.. but we're just different people, nothing in common.
I wouldn't hang out with him socially.......
He wasn't around nearly as much as a normal father should have been.. I'm not upset about it any more, just indifferent and indifference is bad...............
So... seeing my dad is work.... I wouldn't hardly qualify it as affection...
That being said... I do have moments where I truly feel bad for him so I don't know... I was at lunch a couple of days ago and it really hit me... his wife is gone... gone forever and never ever coming back.. I thought about losing Mrs. chow and how I would feel. I got upset and really felt bad for him. I was sitting in my car at lunch eating and thought about calling him and just laying it and opening myself up and letting him know that I love him and felt terrible about his situation.
I couldn't do it. I feel a little bad about it, but he created this and I'm trying the best I can to not throw it in his face.... life is a mother f er at times. This being one of those times.
Love mom. Dad has my number and I his. We talked right before my wedding night on the phone. I haven't seen him in ten years. He stopped talking to me around ten years old and I didn't call him so our relationship dissolved. Mind you we live in the same town. He is a hermit according to my brother who talks to him more than I and sees him infrequently.
If I wanted I could see him but what would that do for either of us? I love him and he loves me and says he prays for me everyday. Idk what seeing him would help. Thought about it many times but just don't see the practicality in it.
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