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Reason being, we have a far stronger type of independant woman in Australia who is far more likely to not want the man involved in the future, than your average Mrs America.
Or you could pick a man whom you WANT to be involved in your life. AND the child's. Too 20th century? Conceiving a child to raise with a man you actually WANT in your life 30 years down the line?
(Can't say it's too American because I actually know Aussies who do this.)
When you name the baby, it's a matter of filling out a form, usually within 24 hours of the birth so you are still in hospital.
If you have a quiet word to the nurse, they will allow you to fill it out in alone.
The law recognises the mother's ultimate rights even if these other posters do not. YOU are the one to lodge the birth certificate as YOU are the one who gave birth. You can put any name on there you please and no one can stop you. It is YOUR CHOICE.
You can actually put father unknown on there too, like some women I know have chosen to do, even though they have been happy with the father at the time. Reason being, we have a far stronger type of independant woman in Australia who is far more likely to not want the man involved in the future, than your average Mrs America.
However, I already know that you will probably just cave in to the pressure and give birth to Henry Louis the whatever. If it's THAT important to them, and you still want to be part of that family dynamic, you'll probably have to let this one go.
I actually like the name even if it does sound a bit pretentious. Did you know that Prince Harry is christened Henry? So Harry is an acceptable nickname for Henry, if that helps.
Also, you can have another baby, which you alone can name. They will all owe you that much.
And whoever said I'm probably divorced because of my uncompromising attitude - I'm divorced because he was an abusive sociopath and I can't even DATE men with the same name now as I find it too much of a reminder, so I thank God I didn't name my son that.
Are you for real??? Betraying your partner's (who sounds like he's a good man) trust just so you can choose the name you like best? Seriously???
Or you could pick a man whom you WANT to be involved in your life. AND the child's. Too 20th century? Conceiving a child to raise with a man you actually WANT in your life 30 years down the line?
(Can't say it's too American because I actually know Aussies who do this.)
That would be a perfect world you're talking about. The world is not perfect, people do end up divorced or being deadbeats. Even if you find Mr Wonderful, it's no guarantee he might not develop a mental illness down the line that completely changes him. Personally I was married to a psycho, another Scott Peterson, so I had no idea who I married for about 10 years, but that's a story for another post.
You all are carrying on about whats "right" and "wrong"...which is fine, but not everyone's life turns out that way, despite all the best intentions and planning.
Don't jump on me because I gave OP some basic legal advice. The law recognises her primacy as the person who actually gave birth and I'm just pointing that out to her.
I could care less what she calls her baby, or if she decides to go the family route - in fact, my advice would be to call the kid Henry. I'm just pointing out she has the ULTIMATE SAY in the eyes of the law.
Originally Posted by MsAnnThrope Reason being, we have a far stronger type of independant woman in Australia who is far more likely to not want the man involved in the future, than your average Mrs America.
That would be a perfect world you're talking about. The world is not perfect, people do end up divorced or being deadbeats. Even if you find Mr Wonderful, it's no guarantee he might not develop a mental illness down the line that completely changes him. Personally I was married to a psycho, another Scott Peterson, so I had no idea who I married for about 10 years, but that's a story for another post.
You all are carrying on about whats "right" and "wrong"...which is fine, but not everyone's life turns out that way, despite all the best intentions and planning.
Don't jump on me because I gave OP some basic legal advice. The law recognises her primacy as the person who actually gave birth and I'm just pointing that out to her.
I could care less what she calls her baby, or if she decides to go the family route - in fact, my advice would be to call the kid Henry. I'm just pointing out she has the ULTIMATE SAY in the eyes of the law.
That is very true but it does no good to be suspicous of people and plan for the worst. That's a sad way to go through life.
I didn't read all 17 pages of posts so someone else has probably already mentioned this, but didn't you realize when you married Henry Louis the fifth that you would be naming your son Henry Louis the sixth, if you have a son? And if your first child is a daughter, there will probably be lots of pressure to have another one, until Henry Louis the sixth comes along.
My first is on my way and while reading my books and getting ready I read a section suggesting most men start to think a lot about the relationship they had with their father when they become parents themselves. I have experienced that as well. I really started to think a lot more about my family growing up. Prior to that I didn't give names much thought but I actually started thinking about naming a potential son after my father. My sister beat me to the punch so that was out, but if I were a sixth and had a great relationship with my father and grandfather like in the OP I can see myself becoming galvanized over continuing the tradition. As you revisit your relationship with your father from a different perspective (more as a peer) a new level of respect and admiration is found at what he did for you because you are preparing to make the same sacrifices yourself.
Yep
Becoming a parent is SUPPOSED to make you more introspective and appreciative
Oh, yes. That builds a strong, happy marriage built on mutual trust and love.
"Psst! Never mind the dad. There's a fiver in it for you if you put down what I want."
Geesum pete's - thank God she's the minority on this thread.
Anybody advocating purposely doing something so huge as going behind a spouse's back to name their child has no clue what it takes to be successfully married. No clue at all!
I do hope our OP is smarter than to take that advice seriously.
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