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That was suggested before. But I responded with a mention of how you can never know for sure what the gender is until he/she is born. Doctors' conclusions of what their machines reveal have been wrong before; it's not unheard of. I'd still recommend they have the matter settled, just in case.
Also, if I had've been named after my biological father, I would've changed my name ASAP. My mom didn't know it at the time of my birth, but he was nothing to be named after!
There are a couple of tests done in pregnancy that will give the chromosomal info on the baby. Those are accurate. If you have one of those you are can be assured the sex of the baby is correct, unless someone in the lab gets the results mixed up or something.
I think the OP has elected to forgo prenatal genetic testing though, IIRC.
Did your heels in and don't give in to your husband. This will set a precedent and if he gets his way with this you should give up hope of ever having your own TV remote control or something as important like which peanut butter to buy.
Did your heels in and don't give in to your husband. This will set a precedent and if he gets his way with this you should give up hope of ever having your own TV remote control or something as important like which peanut butter to buy.
Yes, but if she does that, does that mean he's never going to get the remote?
Did your heels in and don't give in to your husband. This will set a precedent and if he gets his way with this you should give up hope of ever having your own TV remote control or something as important like which peanut butter to buy.
Why shouldn't the woman have to give in? Why is it always the man who should give in?
give up hope of ever having your own TV remote control .
Wow. A husband like that is NOT the guy a woman wants to make babies with.
BTW: Universal remotes are as low as 20 bucks and any woman with half a brain can program it herself. So much for the chest beating "Me man! Me have remote!! We watch MY choice Little Woman!!" when Modern Family is on.
That was suggested before. But I responded with a mention of how you can never know for sure what the gender is until he/she is born. Doctors' conclusions of what their machines reveal have been wrong before; it's not unheard of. I'd still recommend they have the matter settled, just in case.
Also, if I had've been named after my biological father, I would've changed my name ASAP. My mom didn't know it at the time of my birth, but he was nothing to be named after!
If that happens, the kid can change his name later. My husband changed his middle and last names when his dad's true colors came out. It doesn't seem like it was a big pain to do.
Yes, but if she does that, does that mean he's never going to get the remote?
How is it different if she won't budge?
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Originally Posted by Magritte25
Why shouldn't the woman have to give in? Why is it always the man who should give in?
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Originally Posted by DewDropInn
Wow. A husband like that is NOT the guy a woman wants to make babies with.
BTW: Universal remotes are as low as 20 bucks and any woman with half a brain can program it herself. So much for the chest beating "Me man! Me have remote!! We watch MY choice Little Woman!!" when Modern Family is on.
See, but this is what happens in many marriages once a child arrives -and engaged people need to be aware of it.
Often times, a person's childhood religion or other traditions (like names) become VERY important to some people once that child is on the way or arrives.
The depth of feeling they can have about this will shock even themselves - which is what has happened to our OP's husband.
People please, if you were raised with some tradition you were really entrenched in as a child, be aware, the importance of this tradition has the potential to greatly impact your marriage one day, even if it's not important to you now.
Even if you don't think things like names or religion or holiday observances are important to you now - discuss with your intended the possible scenarios once you are parents and how you plan to deal with them if they arise. Be prepared to work together as a team, not opponents with your own game to win.
A child changes EVERYTHING - and deep feelings come to the surface once you know you are going to have one. BE READY.
This could not be more true! I was discussing this with my teens and and they were disagreeing with me about this issue claiming that a girl my son was dating "hated" her mother's fanatical religion and would never be married in that church.
Funny how sure of themselves people who have lived for 16 and 18 years on this earth can be!
I have seen this time and time again - people seem to abandon their cultural and religious back ground in their late teens through early adulthood, only to reclaim them when the first child or marriage is on the horizon.
I also attempted to caution my children that very ethnic people, with "strong" families, are especially susceptible to the pattern of "rebellion and return."
For some, family ties are not so much the nuclear family - husband wife and children, but the parents and family of origin.
In this case, I think that it's best that "like" marries "like."
If you have a strong and hierarchical family, for whom tradition and the opinion of parents are very important, marry someone such as yourself.
If you have a family that values independence of the couple, is not staunchly ethnic, and sees each other on holidays and special occasions, a loose family system, you will be stultified by an overbearing mother-in-law and the constant presence of relatives - who they will call "family."
I do not think it's about the name. I think that the OP is shocked and betrayed that her SO is choosing is past; (his family of origin), over his future - his life with her.
I think that is at the heart of this conflict.
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