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But that sounds like the first woman is ready to have a baby and is talking to a friend about it.
Well the way she put it to her friend, her decision to have one was based upon her getting up there in age rather than actually having the desire to have one. She then went on about how doesnt want to look like the childs grandmother by the time the child enters school.
All you have to do is look around to know that you, as a "child-free by choice" person, are in a minority. People are curious about those who are different from them.
I suspect your co-workers are very curious about why you don't have kids, and after they get used to it they'll back off.
If someone is talking about having kids before a certain age, most likely they want kids anyway. It's not just something you do because you have the capability. If older women are doing the cajoling, it's because they know how much energy it takes to raise kids.
I heard it just yesterday on the subway. 33 yr old women telling another women that she's moving to a 2br apt because she's getting up there in age and her clock is ticking. The other women told her that she doesnt know what she's waiting for.
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Originally Posted by deevel79
Well the way she put it to her friend, her decision to have one was based upon her getting up there in age rather than actually having the desire to have one. She then went on about how doesnt want to look like the childs grandmother by the time the child enters school.
For a woman, there is a finite amount of time to have a baby. Someone nearing their mid 30's is correct that they better get on it, or it could be too late. I don't see how this relates to your OP.
Well its not said to me but I hear it often whenever I hear (usually 2 women) on the topic. Everyone who knows me pretty much knows my stance when it comes to having children. I'm 32yrs old, dont have any, nor do I want any. I have a 2 month old boston terrier puppy that I call my "son" . I just find it weird that many people speak about having children as if its some sort of mandatory thing you MUST do. I've even had women at the workplace get offended when they ask me if I have any children and I tell them "no". Then they follow up with "well why not" or "do you plan on having any?". I just flat out tell them that I have no interests in having children. Why should this be offensive to anyone? Its my life.
So, not to be offensive but there often seem to be women not interested in having children hanging around the Parenting board. Why?
So, not to be offensive but there often seem to be women not interested in having children hanging around the Parenting board. Why?
The childfree by choice feel put upon by parents. It's ridiculous, but there it is. Some child free by choice like to complain about children frequently.
There was an alt.support.childfree on usenet long ago. Most of usenet though is now spam and trolls.
There is a board called childfree life choices I think. You have to have an account though to view their forums
I heard it just yesterday on the subway. 33 yr old women telling another women that she's moving to a 2br apt because she's getting up there in age and her clock is ticking. The other women told her that she doesnt know what she's waiting for.
So you overheard someones conversation on the subway and you deduce that she is 33 (ok you may have "overheard" that to) and that she feels pressure to have a child although she may not really want one. I think you assume too much. Sounds like normal conversation to me.
Well the way she put it to her friend, her decision to have one was based upon her getting up there in age rather than actually having the desire to have one. She then went on about how doesnt want to look like the childs grandmother by the time the child enters school.
There is a window within with women are physically capable of having babies. And you do start running out of energy as you age.
So, not to be offensive but there often seem to be women not interested in having children hanging around the Parenting board. Why?
Some are quite free with advice on here too which really is offensive. I have no problem with people choosing not to have children or even not to get married but some childfree people on this forum think they know it all about raising children and are so critical. We know who they are and I usually ignore them.
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. I just find it weird that many people speak about having children as if its some sort of mandatory thing you MUST do. I've even had women at the workplace get offended when they ask me if I have any children and I tell them "no". Then they follow up with "well why not" or "do you plan on having any?". I just flat out tell them that I have no interests in having children. Why should this be offensive to anyone? Its my life.
