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Old 05-14-2019, 07:25 AM
 
Location: Coastal New Jersey
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At least one of them forgets or is mad at me every year. I think I might start to wonder if it was the same kid every year but it’s not.

I remember when I was 16 & I didn’t get my dad a birthday present one year & my mom really laid on the guilt trip thick. I mean I was sort of impervious back then & she had me feeling so bad, I had him something by dinner time! It’s part of growing up. Can’t get away with those glued pieces of macaroni on a sheet of construction paper forever ...
One of my most memorable Mother's Day gifts was when my daughter was 9 or 10 and gave me a little figurine of a kid holding a sign that said, "I love you Mom" or some such sentiment, and my daughter proudly said, "And look at the bottom, Mom! It was on the half-price table!" Sure enough, the bottom had a sticker with the price slashed out and marked "50% off".

Years later she would send me a card that said, "Thank you for teaching me never to pay full price for anything."

I felt as though I'd done my job!
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Old 05-14-2019, 12:50 PM
 
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Yes but I am not offended and do not take it personally.

I don't really care at all actually. It matters a lot more what kind of person my kid is and how they treat me and others day to day.
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Old 05-14-2019, 01:41 PM
 
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If my 18yo gave me glued macaroni, I would be over the moon! So damned funny!
I saw a Stonehenge made of ziti once. I'd be very impressed with that as a gift.
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Old 05-14-2019, 05:08 PM
 
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One of my most memorable Mother's Day gifts was when my daughter was 9 or 10 and gave me a little figurine of a kid holding a sign that said, "I love you Mom" or some such sentiment, and my daughter proudly said, "And look at the bottom, Mom! It was on the half-price table!" Sure enough, the bottom had a sticker with the price slashed out and marked "50% off".

Years later she would send me a card that said, "Thank you for teaching me never to pay full price for anything."

I felt as though I'd done my job!
I love this! I started working at a thrift store a few years back, and feel the same way.
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Old 05-14-2019, 05:37 PM
 
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Not everyone believes that a phone call is necessary on every manufactured holiday, especially Mother's Day.

Many people do not recognize imposed manufactured holidays. And not every year.

Honoring a person can take place at any time (and multiple times, if desired and if opportunity presents) during any given year.
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Old 05-14-2019, 10:34 PM
 
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Everyone knows that it’s a manufactured holiday, so is thanksgiving, the 4th of July etc... exception of religious holidays... we all know!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The op, said that she would have been happy with even just a phone call, her feelings were hurt and understandably so.
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Old 05-15-2019, 12:04 PM
 
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The op, said that she would have been happy with even just a phone call, her feelings were hurt and understandably so.
As I said right above your post at my post #105, not everyone believes that a phone call is necessary on Mother's Day or any other holiday.

A phone call on Mother's Day as being necessary is just not something that everyone agrees with, and everyone should not assume that it is a requirement, agreed upon as necessary, desired by everyone, and deemed important by adult children. It just is not.

I do not believe in phone calls at Christmas either.

You picked up the manufactured holiday part, and ignored the fact that a phone call is certainly not agree upon by everyone as being important. I never called on Mother's Day or any other holiday or birthday. I just don't believe in it and never did.

It is NOT universally agreed upon among ALL adult children that a phone call on Mother's Day or any other holiday is important or required or a universal expectation.

Not everyone is phone-centric and obsessed with phoning. I always sent cards and did not phone.

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Old 05-15-2019, 12:38 PM
 
Location: A Yankee in northeast TN
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It is NOT universally agreed upon among ALL adult children that a phone call on Mother's Day or any other holiday is important or required or a universal expectation.

Not everyone is phone-centric and obsessed with phoning. I always sent cards and did not phone.
Wouldn't the important part be what your mother's (or other family member's) expectations are? I mean it's one thing to say that an adult child doesn't think it's important, but if their parent thinks it is, and it doesn't happen, then it creates unnecessary problems. IMO if it's important to one party that should automatically mean it is important to both parties, in a healthy relationship.
In this case if the mom thinks a phone call on the given holiday is important then it becomes important to a child who wants to make their parent happy. I've already stated that I personally don't care about such things, but I do understand that for other people they are hurt because nobody wants to think their kids don't care about what they want. It doesn't really matter if a child thinks their parent is right, wrong, or just silly for wanting whatever it is they want, it's hurtful to be denied that want.

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Old 05-15-2019, 02:01 PM
 
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As I said right above your post at my post #105, not everyone believes that a phone call is necessary on Mother's Day or any other holiday.

A phone call on Mother's Day as being necessary is just not something that everyone agrees with, and everyone should not assume that it is a requirement, agreed upon as necessary, desired by everyone, and deemed important by adult children. It just is not.

I do not believe in phone calls at Christmas either.

You picked up the manufactured holiday part, and ignored the fact that a phone call is certainly not agree upon by everyone as being important. I never called on Mother's Day or any other holiday or birthday. I just don't believe in it and never did.

It is NOT universally agreed upon among ALL adult children that a phone call on Mother's Day or any other holiday is important or required or a universal expectation.

Not everyone is phone-centric and obsessed with phoning. I always sent cards and did not phone.

I phoned my parents at least once a week and my kids the same plus holidays, whether "manufactured" or not my parents appreciated it and their feelings mattered more.

You are entitled to your beliefs and good for you, not everyone thinks the way you do and that's good for them and the op was hurt and is also entitled to her feelings.
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Old Yesterday, 05:35 AM
 
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Everyone knows that it’s a manufactured holiday, so is thanksgiving, the 4th of July etc... exception of religious holidays... we all know!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The op, said that she would have been happy with even just a phone call, her feelings were hurt and understandably so.
Religious holidays are the biggest manufactured holidays of them all.
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