My mom treated me as if I was not worthy of respect (teenager, toy) - Children, problems, school, daycare, behavior, age, teenagers, infants - City-Data Forum

CreepyMuse · 07-29-2012, 04:46 PM

One time I was taking a shower and my older cousin needed to get in the bathroom and my mom said: you can get in.. and my cousin told her that I wasthere and mom said: Na, it's ok get in! Like what's the problem?

I was like I need my privacy! I felt stupid like me taking a shower and my cousin there with the door open as if noone was there. I said my mom and she said with that tone of voice that I hate: so? There's nothing wrong with that?.. No? Nothing?

One time there was mom and dad in the living room and the neighbor asked I don't know what thing and I started talking, well they started talking loudy to shut me up, at the same time , like automatically. I couldn't even finish what I was saying.

She always distort evetything and when I go to explain that it's not that way. She smile, she look at me as if I were noone, turn around and keep talking to the other person. I feel like I'm a toy or that I don't derserve respect.

And the worst thing is that that's affecting me with the others. I started being passive because I know 'noone will listen my arguments'. When I try to say camly to my mom what she's doing, she makes un of me, she ignores me; then I get mad and I talk loudy, now she says that I'm ALWAYS so angry and that peple can''t talk to my because I am to agressive.

I mean that's unhealthy, as if she wanted me to look like a mad crazy person. Sometimes I want to throw something at her face becuasse I can't believe she acts that way, she doesn't listen to anything and the worst thing is that she ridicules me/ minimizes what I say in front of others. I feel stupid. So now when someone doesn't understand or makes fun of someting I said I feel like I want to punch them. Like noone in the world takes me seriously. I want to change it and always I try to talk to my mom but she's very good at what she does.

I'm 24. No, I'm not a teenager but this is stil affecting me.

germaine2626 · 07-29-2012, 05:02 PM

How old are you?
That will help us give you suggestions/advice.

Kibbiekat · 07-29-2012, 05:05 PM

How old are you? Some things in your post remind me of how my mom treats me.

Kibbiekat · 07-29-2012, 05:10 PM

Oh, I see your update. I'm almost 40, and can still fight with my mom like I was a teen. You probably won't change your mom, but maybe you could see a therapist to help change how you deal with her, and how you relate to other people too.

Oleg Bach · 07-29-2012, 05:23 PM

Respect is the granting of power- and mutual co-operation..You give them power- they give it back.....Ask mum for some power and see if she gives it to you- maybe she is hogging it....be nice.