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Old 12-22-2014, 05:23 AM
 
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My mom used to steal my money, or guilt me out of it if she couldn't steal it and blame it on someone else. I lost friends and jobs over her lying to me about other people stealing my money.

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Old 12-22-2014, 05:50 AM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Parents who have to steal from their kids are really pathetic. These are the types who later on wonder why their children never visit or call, or why they can't see their grandchildren.
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Old 12-22-2014, 11:03 AM
 
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A child gets a gift of money in lieu of a physical gift for a birthday or holiday, I've never understood why you would take that away from them. Even to take half and put it in savings, seems wrong to me UNLESS that's what the kid wants to do with it. I understand teaching children about money, encouraging them to save, but money as a gift is still that, a gift. They should be able to buy themselves something with it that they want. Cash is usually given because you don't know what to buy a kid for a physical gift. My kids usually save it up for when they want something big, that's a choice though that they make.
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Old 12-22-2014, 11:05 AM
 
Location: All Over
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Its one thing to force your kid to save their money but even then give them a little pocket money to do with what they want whether its go see a movie with friends or buy something or go to the mall.

If teh household needs the money to eat or keep utlities on fine but scumbag mom taking the kids money to get her hair done, get a job loser.
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Old 12-22-2014, 01:58 PM
 
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Its one thing to force your kid to save their money but even then give them a little pocket money to do with what they want whether its go see a movie with friends or buy something or go to the mall.

If teh household needs the money to eat or keep utlities on fine but scumbag mom taking the kids money to get her hair done, get a job loser.

I don't agree. It is never a child's responsibility to put food on the table or keep the lights on. That is a parent's job IMO.
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Old 12-22-2014, 02:45 PM
 
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I don't agree. It is never a child's responsibility to put food on the table or keep the lights on. That is a parent's job IMO.
I do totally agree. I think, if it is really dire, and the parents are living off PB sandwiches and not smoking, drinking, buying themselves anything beyond staying alive items. No cable, no extras. Looking for any and all work. Applying for aid as available... and they still need money for food...I wouldn't fault the parent. So often that isn't the case. I had to turn over all my gift money, work money, cash out my savings bonds and even hand over my piggy bank. And my parents smoked, bought foods for them only (like steak) and went out driving and for coffee. That and they refused to work.

It was funny though, my dad insisted we give 75% of our money to him. My mom would say no and they would have huge fights. And 9 times out of 10, she stole or guilted all of it...so she was taking 90%.

I remember how odd it was she would let me open an envelope from a family member sending birthday money and then say in a pseudo-sad voice "you know, we are going to need to use that for the family". When she ran off to buy her cartons of smokes, I should have said the same thing.
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Old 12-24-2014, 09:20 AM
 
Location: The analog world
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No, of course not!
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Old 12-24-2014, 09:29 AM
 
Location: Scott County, Tennessee/by way of Detroit
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I perfectly remember my dad going to the bank where all of us kids had small bank accounts,closing them all out and giving us nothing...Karma took hold when his 12 yr old son by his second marriage took $100 bills out of his wallet and left him with NO money.
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Old 12-24-2014, 02:44 PM
 
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That is definitely stupid to do, OP. Parents should not have to rely getting money from their kids to do things. If they didn't have enough money for those things, then they should have never had kids in the first place. These parents are despicable!
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Old 12-28-2014, 05:34 AM
 
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I was on Yahoo Answers and came across some questions and one of them was this.
(This is not my question)

"Whenever I have a birthday,
The money that I get as gifts...my parents use it to buy themselves fast food & to get my mom's hair done and stuff.

They took all $200 of my birthday money ;(

This depresses me. They do this every year.

I just turned sixteen.

If I get a job they'll take that money too.
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My parents didn't give me any birthday money.

Other people gave me birthday money & my parents took it." From Yahoo Answers.




So Do You Think it's right for Parents to take their children's money?
I Think Parents should manage their kid's money and help them make good choices, but to all out take it, I find sad.
Again, The scenario is from yahoo answers. I'm 23


My mother did this throughout my whole life (Until I moved out.)

I don't talk to her anymore. Haven't in almost 20yrs.

I don't recommend it to parents.
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