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Old 10-08-2007, 08:15 PM
 
Location: South FL
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I just found this old article... To me it was very interesting and thought provoking...

Mothering Magazine Article: Cry for Connection A Fresh Approach To Tantrums (http://www.mothering.com/articles/growing_child/toddlers/tantrums.html - broken link)
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Old 10-21-2007, 11:32 PM
 
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Excellent. Thank you so much!
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Old 10-23-2007, 06:23 AM
 
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Sorry, but what a load of you know what. It is just gives permission for parents not to deal with kids that are misbehaving. The more attention you pay to a child having a temper tantrum, the more "upsets" you will see. How about you spend your time helping your child figure out their emotions and figuring out a nice way to get things vs allowing them to scream and yell to get their way. Sorry but if a child his having an 'upset', walk away, ignore it, when it is done, help your child figure out what he/she wants. That is MUCH more productive. I can count on one hand how many tantrums my kids ever had and they are very well adjusted children now.
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Old 10-23-2007, 11:51 AM
 
Location: South FL
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Sorry, but what a load of you know what. It is just gives permission for parents not to deal with kids that are misbehaving. The more attention you pay to a child having a temper tantrum, the more "upsets" you will see. How about you spend your time helping your child figure out their emotions and figuring out a nice way to get things vs allowing them to scream and yell to get their way. Sorry but if a child his having an 'upset', walk away, ignore it, when it is done, help your child figure out what he/she wants. That is MUCH more productive. I can count on one hand how many tantrums my kids ever had and they are very well adjusted children now.
Nowhere in the article that it says that you allow a child "to get their way". Quite the opposite. You might want to re-read.
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Old 10-23-2007, 08:46 PM
 
Location: Grand Rapids Metro
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I like this one:

The headline is that you can safely and serenely allow your child to have the tantrum he is heading toward. That tantrum is necessary. It's healthy, and it's healing. All you need to add is your warm attention. The tantrum you permit him to have clears a jam in his mental and emotional system so he can think well again.

I agree golfgal, what a load.

Here's another one:

When our children are happy, cooperative, loving, and polite, we take pride in them and in ourselves as parents. When our children are unhappy or unreasonable, we figure that something has gone wrong, and we tend to blame ourselves or them.

Wrong! When a child acts up, it is because they do not yet possess the maturity level to deal with the world around them.

But anyway, advice for the father in the article: any time my kids ask for a glass of milk, I tell them to go get a glass of water themselves. Water or nothing. Works every time.
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Old 10-24-2007, 11:21 AM
 
Location: South FL
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Eh, I'm not really interested in debating...I love the author of the article and I know that her methods work. To each its own I guess.
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Old 10-25-2007, 08:32 AM
 
Location: Grand Rapids Metro
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Eh, I'm not really interested in debating...I love the author of the article and I know that her methods work. To each its own I guess.
Then why post it on a "discussion" board?
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Old 10-25-2007, 05:55 PM
 
Location: South FL
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sorry, I thought we are allowed to share information without getting into debates.
Take from article what you need, or don't...whatever...I think it's more appropriate for moms who are struggling with little toddler's emotions. And I didn't expect it to be too welcomed, it IS called "fresh" approach.
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Old 10-26-2007, 05:38 AM
 
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sorry, I thought we are allowed to share information without getting into debates.
Take from article what you need, or don't...whatever...I think it's more appropriate for moms who are struggling with little toddler's emotions. And I didn't expect it to be too welcomed, it IS called "fresh" approach.
It is a discussion board, we are discussing our opinions of this article. That is the whole point.
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Old 10-26-2007, 05:56 PM
 
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It is a discussion board, we are discussing our opinions of this article. That is the whole point.
And I'm glad it got your attention!
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