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Yes, I know. But I don't get the rationale? They want their kids to think that their body is yucky? Dirty? Scary? Shameful?
I don't understand it either, but I do think it's an extension of the puritanical trend. For example, and this has been told to me as an explanation, some people think vagina is a dirty word (), so they say whatever cutesy word instead.
On the topic of slang vs. correct words, you need to teach both. It's like a "Rosetta Stone" of body part names, you learn the right name and then a variety of the slang and then you can put it all together when you need to. You also need to teach that some slang terms are incredibly offensive, the "c-word" comes to mind. Ultimately it's not really any different then building regular vocabulary. There are many words that all generally mean the same thing, but have subtle differences and are appropriate in different situations. You don't want your son to refer to his "****" when talking with his grandparents or tell his doctor about his "schlong". You also don't want him to walk up to his friends and go, "oh you're talking about weenies". This goes for a lot of things. Someone mentioned a bathroom analogy previously. Well, you don't want your kid to raise his hand in class and say "I need to take a ****"; "I need to go to the bathroom" is much more appropriate. Regardless though, knowing the correct words is always a good fallback. When you're unsure of what word to use in the setting, using the correct term is often the least troubling choice.
My wife and I have always taken a dual approach to talking about it. We want our kids to be comfortable and able to talk about these things with either one of us. There are some questions that my son has reserved for "father son" moments but those are few and far between. I imagine there are somethings my daughters will feel more comfortable talking about with mom. However, we want them to know that they can talk to either one of us about any of these issues and expect to get the same honest, caring and non-judgemental answers. You never know, I may die tomorrow and I wouldn't want my son to think that only dad can talk about "boy stuff". More realistic, let's say I'm travelling and he has his first wet dream, I wouldn't want him to be scared and embarassed to the point he has to wait a few days for me to return to talk about it.
Meh. A person needs to get information from whomever they get good information from. My husband tends to get flustered and goofy around sexual topics. DS knows to come to me for the straight poop.
I don't know. I was only able to get accurate information from my father, because my mother was too puritanical to say anything other than "girls who respect themselves don't do/think about/talk about that," but discussions with opposite sex parents on these topics are very awkward. Eventually my father gave age-appropriate books on sensitive topics and told me I could ask questions if I had any. Information disseminated sans awkwardness. If the same-sex parent can't or won't be involved, this seems the best way.
the parent with the most information and who is more at ease is the one but not necessarily the only one. There are so many kids with only 1 parent today it is cruel to say only the same sex parent is the one to do the talking.
I am more comfortable with biology and sexuality so all my kids talked about these things more with me than with their father.
Years ago my 24 year old son came to me stating he and his steady GF were having problems and could he talk to me about them cause she couldn't talk to her own mother about them. I was flattered and I know I helped them alot. Then they asked me to help them to pick out a vibrator for them. We had a conference call with Mom and Dad, the 2 of them and his 22 y.o. sister all shopping on several sites together. it was a riot and we all ended getting a multi-purchase discount.
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), so they say whatever cutesy word instead.
