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I really didnt expect this to happen so soon. My 1 year old is starting to act a bit bratty. She'll be doing something she KNOWS she;s not supposed to and when I tell her to stop she gives me this look like you wouldnt believe. I mean the whole 9 yards poking her bottom lip out and chin down staring at me with eyes that look mad and sad at the same time. Ive gotten into the habit of just saying stop giving me that look and then ignore her but shes starting to have tantrums! I mean all out on the floor crying and all. SHES 1 !! Negative behavior does not get rewarded in my house so she gets put in the playpen in her room and left alone until she can act like a normal little girl. She usually ends up crying herself to sleep.
I need help what can I do to get her out of this stage? Am I wrong in thinking this is coming way too early? Am I reacting properly? Are there better ways to go about her "punishment"
I cant wait to see the teen years.
ETA : This is a rare occasion I would say twice a month. Usually when she comes back from Grannys.
She is one. She does not really KNOW she is not supposed to in any really meaningful way. One is the perfect age for redirect, distract, ignore and when needed remove. You don't "tell" a one year old much since they don't "get" it. In addition, you run the risk of her identifying herself as belonging in the family dynamic when she is in power struggle with you. I woudl recommend this book
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Babies are smart and she has you trained to do her will
and she will suffer in the long run, including yourself as she grows up undisciplined.
Next it will be sassing and back talking and hitting you.
Just like so many other children in their teens, and in jail today.
We were spanked the first time we tried it,
and it cured our action and reaction problems ! ! !
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I'm pretty sure most people, even those who advocate spanking, would not spank a one year old unless they were preventing a very dangerous behavior (like touching a hot oven).
I agree with the recommendations somebodynew gave. From here on out, it is probably going to feel like there is always some new parenting challenge. It's normal and the more independence they strive for, the more bumps in the road there are for the parents. These bumps are also opportunities to teach your daughter. My best advice is to figure out a general discipline strategy now, be consistent and calm and firm, take the problem behaviors as they come, and be open to evaluating and re-evaluating your discipline strategies as you go. If it makes you feel any better, my daughter is around the same age and she has already started tantrumming. Redirection, distraction, reinforcing positive behavior and ignoring tantrums, and modeling age-appropriate behavior works at this age. They eventually learn to tolerate hearing no.
I'm pretty sure most people, even those who advocate spanking, would not spank a one year old unless they were preventing a very dangerous behavior (like touching a hot oven).
Nonsense. One year old children can and should be spanked for behaving this way. Consistently, and just enough to get their attention.
It works like this. Child starts throwing a tantrum. Parent says sternly (not shouting) "stop the tantrum and go sit on the sofa". Child disobeys. Parent administers spanking and sets child on sofa. Lather, rinse, repeat as needed.
Nonsense. You can and should spank a one year old behaving this way. Consistently, and just enough to get their attention.
It works like this. Child starts throwing a tantrum. Parent says sternly (not shouting) "stop the tantrum and go sit on the sofa". Child disobeys. Parent administers spanking and sets child on sofa. Lather, rinse, repeat as needed.
And then the parent throws the child a bone. This makes me so sad.
Let me add that sofa/playpen time should be fairly short. Letting her cry herself to sleep alone is way overkill. She's not going to connect her misery in the playpen with something she did an hour ago. After her brief incarceration, let her out to play again and give her a little talk about tantrums.
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