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Would it bother you if you are always the one asking for a playdate for your daughter, as in your daughter's friends' mothers does not reciprocate?
There are a few girls that my daughter play well with and they always have a good time together. The mothers are always happy to have the playdate and I like them as well. However, they never asked my daughter for a playdate with their child but they would happily accept any playdate request initiated by me.
I guess it's trivial but as it goes on, it makes me wonder if there's something wrong with me or my daughter. The only 'reason' I could think of is these friends all have siblings, so they play with their siblings. (My daughter is an only child)
Would it bother you if you are always the one asking for a playdate for your daughter, as in your daughter's friends' mothers does not reciprocate?
There are a few girls that my daughter play well with and they always have a good time together. The mothers are always happy to have the playdate and I like them as well. However, they never asked my daughter for a playdate with their child but they would happily accept any playdate request initiated by me.
I guess it's trivial but as it goes on, it makes me wonder if there's something wrong with me or my daughter. The only 'reason' I could think of is these friends all have siblings, so they play with their siblings. (My daughter is an only child)
It could be that its nore that their child's siblings will make it more of a hassle. For example, my DD had her friend over this weekend and her younger siblings would not leave the two of them alone! So half of my day was devoted to ensuring they didnt bother her. It gets very draining.
There are many reasons people are reluctant to host playdates. The most common we have seen is when one parent works from home and can't work with the additional noise. Home improvement projects. Messy/dirty/unsafe house. Young siblings. Elderly relatives that live with them. And my favorite irksome one that a mom actually told me....she doesn't want her house getting dirty.
You didn't mention how old your daughter is. We really didn't do playdates until my kids were in elementary school (kindergarten), then hosted frequently. I have twins and my kids basically had a live in playmate, and we would frequently go to the park where they would play with others (with no "playdate" strings attached). My kids saw their friends at preschool and dance class, etc. but I didn't feel the need to have playdates at our home, but would accept if others asked. The other families that would ask generally had children without siblings.
You didn't mention how old your daughter is. We really didn't do playdates until my kids were in elementary school (kindergarten), then hosted frequently. I have twins and my kids basically had a live in playmate, and we would frequently go to the park where they would play with others (with no "playdate" strings attached). My kids saw their friends at preschool and dance class, etc. but I didn't feel the need to have playdates at our home, but would accept if others asked. The other families that would ask generally had children without siblings.
This on all accounts. Those families with siblings close in age tend not to ask for play dates nearly as much.
It could be that you are in a community where "play dates" are just not the usual thing to do. What happens is that YOU visit the other mom, and the kids play together and you BOTH watch out for them.
I can't imagine inviting a child over to play since that would mean that I was responsible to the other child.
The older child should be able to arrange his/her own play time with friends that they choose, not the ones that the mothers arranged for.
Would it bother you if you are always the one asking for a playdate for your daughter, as in your daughter's friends' mothers does not reciprocate?
There are a few girls that my daughter play well with and they always have a good time together. The mothers are always happy to have the playdate and I like them as well. However, they never asked my daughter for a playdate with their child but they would happily accept any playdate request initiated by me.
I guess it's trivial but as it goes on, it makes me wonder if there's something wrong with me or my daughter. The only 'reason' I could think of is these friends all have siblings, so they play with their siblings. (My daughter is an only child)
Don't think too too much on this. If they accept the invitation then obviously they are ok with you and your daughter.
Don't think too too much on this. If they accept the invitation then obviously they are ok with you and your daughter.
Thanks.
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