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Old 03-01-2013, 11:42 AM
 
Location: Geneva, IL
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No, he's a great dad.
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Old 03-01-2013, 11:50 AM
 
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I met my current husband when my older child was 2 yrs old. Even though I fell madly in love with him right away, some of our dates were like job interviews for "Father of My Child". lol

I grilled him on everything including, "Will you accept my son if he is gay?" (Good thing too because he turned out to be bisexual)

I am extremely happy with the father he has become. My first husband....not so much.
But doesn't it disturb you that your son has the blood of someone who probably made your life worse?
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Old 03-01-2013, 12:08 PM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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You're from my parents generation then (I suppose). You've been lucky because people still had children out of tradition in the early 80s. Most men of that time got their wives pregnant to fulfill the social obligation, not because they wanted the kids.
Seriously?

I don't know of a single couple, personally, who started having a family out of some "social obligation". They, like us, wanted kids.

And luck has nothing to do with it. It takes a lot of work to stay marries and raise a family.
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Old 03-01-2013, 12:09 PM
 
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But doesn't it disturb you that your son has the blood of someone who probably made your life worse?
Well, he wasn't a good father, but he is otherwise a decent person. He actually lives with his birth father now which brings him a COMPLETELY different perspective in life.
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Old 03-01-2013, 12:19 PM
 
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Seriously?

I don't know of a single couple, personally, who started having a family out of some "social obligation". They, like us, wanted kids.

And luck has nothing to do with it. It takes a lot of work to stay marries and raise a family.
In the past you were a social aberration if you didn't have children.
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Old 03-01-2013, 12:25 PM
 
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No, my husband has been a wonderful father, and I think my kids are lucky to have him.
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Old 03-01-2013, 01:14 PM
 
Location: Central, NJ
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Do you regret the choice of father/mother for your kids?

My mother is an outstanding mum, very loving, dedicated and made lots of sacrifices for us. But sometimes I wonder if she regrets having my brother and I because, after all, we are also sons of the man who made her unhappy for 30 years.

Even though we both hate our father, I question if she doesn't see him when she looks at us and regrets having children with him.
My sister has 2 boys and a very difficult ex who made her unhappy for many years. She never regrets her children, ever. She sees the wonderful men they are becoming and not the chains of her marriage! I'm sure your Mom looks at you and your brother and is glad for the 2 wonderful things that came of that marriage. If not - there is something wrong with her and not you.
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Old 03-01-2013, 03:15 PM
 
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I'm sure your Mom looks at you and your brother and is glad for the 2 wonderful things that came of that marriage.
That what she usually says when she talks about the marriage. Still, both my brother and I are the splitting image of our father and I don't know how she feels about it.
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Old 03-01-2013, 03:22 PM
 
Location: Space Coast
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I have no regrets, because I love my kids just as they are. They wouldn't be the same kids if they had a different father.
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Old 03-01-2013, 04:24 PM
 
Location: USA
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I met my current husband when my older child was 2 yrs old. Even though I fell madly in love with him right away, some of our dates were like job interviews for "Father of My Child". lol

I grilled him on everything including, "Will you accept my son if he is gay?" (Good thing too because he turned out to be bisexual)

I am extremely happy with the father he has become. My first husband....not so much.
The man or your kid turned out to be bisexual?
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