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Old 10-28-2007, 03:28 PM
 
Location: Cornelius
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I'd like to ask a very sincere question, perhaps out of ignorance: Is it a cultural thing to want to find other AA moms and not just find other moms in general, be they white, yellow, purple or green? Is the AA culture so different that there is just not enough in common with moms of other races to develop friendships? Would it be ok for me to ask "looking for caucasian dads to share parenting, social adventures, love for travel, dining out, movies....etc. or just hooking up at a Starbucks to complain about the world!" I'm just trying to innocently figure this out for a world trying hard to forget there are different colors of skin. Just askin...
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Old 10-28-2007, 04:02 PM
 
Location: NoVa
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I think a mother is a mother. Children are children. no family raises their family exactly as another does, even if they all live in the same neighborhood, they are all white, all middle class, all drive this car.....

None will be exactly alike. I have friends of every race.

Its what YOU are looking for, not what we think, IMHO.
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Old 10-28-2007, 05:12 PM
 
Location: Naptowne, Alaska
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Alcholics Anonymous Mom? Is that an AA Mom?
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Old 10-28-2007, 05:27 PM
 
Location: Marion, IN
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Alcholics Anonymous Mom? Is that an AA Mom?
I think the OP means African American. Truthfully, my first thought was Alcoholics Anonymous. I had to read the post several times before I figured it out.
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Old 10-28-2007, 07:20 PM
 
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I was thinking Alcoholics Anonymous too!
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Old 10-28-2007, 07:37 PM
 
Location: NE Florida
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What happened to your mom, Carolina Guy? Can't you just hang around with her?
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Old 10-28-2007, 11:25 PM
 
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I'd like to ask a very sincere question, perhaps out of ignorance: Is it a cultural thing to want to find other AA moms and not just find other moms in general, be they white, yellow, purple or green? Is the AA culture so different that there is just not enough in common with moms of other races to develop friendships? Would it be ok for me to ask "looking for caucasian dads to share parenting, social adventures, love for travel, dining out, movies....etc. or just hooking up at a Starbucks to complain about the world!" I'm just trying to innocently figure this out for a world trying hard to forget there are different colors of skin. Just askin...
It really depends on the person. My sister in law is white and her best friend is black. Women, regardless of color, can have many things in common. Some people may be really into their culture and not as open to being friends with others. If you are, you can find women of other races that are too.
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Old 10-29-2007, 01:14 PM
 
Location: Hillsborough
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Maybe she lives in an area where there are not many black families and she wants her child to have a play group where s/he is not the only black child? Like, she wants her kid to know that there are other black kids too. Just a guess.

Or, maybe she wants to interact with people who she perceives she will have more in common with, and perhaps she thinks that race would be a good way to identify these people. I tend to like associating with other moms who parent the way I do because I feel that mainstream moms often can't relate to things I'm dealing with or the way I chose to do things. That's why I attend special interest parenting groups to find other moms like me. I can't get on board with "a mother is a mother" when it comes to making playgroups and socialization surrounding your kids. I find that I have very little in common with many other mothers.
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Old 10-29-2007, 09:13 PM
 
Location: Eastern PA
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Maybe she lives in an area where there are not many black families and she wants her child to have a play group where s/he is not the only black child? Like, she wants her kid to know that there are other black kids too. Just a guess.

Or, maybe she wants to interact with people who she perceives she will have more in common with, and perhaps she thinks that race would be a good way to identify these people. I tend to like associating with other moms who parent the way I do because I feel that mainstream moms often can't relate to things I'm dealing with or the way I chose to do things. That's why I attend special interest parenting groups to find other moms like me. I can't get on board with "a mother is a mother" when it comes to making playgroups and socialization surrounding your kids. I find that I have very little in common with many other mothers.
Exactly! I wouldn't hang out with LLL moms if I had no interest in BFing. I personally enjoy hanging out with the AP set because I can relate to them better, whereas I don't have a lot in common with 'mainstream' moms either.
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Old 10-29-2007, 10:25 PM
 
Location: Atlanta, GA
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I don't think it's strange to want to find other Black moms. There isn't much a white friend can tell you when you need advice on what to tell your child when she comes home crying because someone has called her the "n" word. We certainly experience this world differently depending on race, gender, sexual orientation, etc. It's normal to want to find someone who can relate. And just because someone wants to find other Black moms doesn't mean they ONLY want that type of interaction. :-)
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