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Originally Posted by likeminas
Today I went to get a cup of coffee at a McDonald's in Brooklyn and as I was ordering I see this woman verbally abusing her child.
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Define verbal abuse.
By whose definition and standard is such determined? Yours?
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I don't know what the child did...
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Precisely! Nor do you know the reasoning, intent, nor the value and/or lesson the parent is seeking to instill. Nor are you aware of the circumstances of that child's environment and life. Is the manner of raising and disciplining children *universal*?
If not, then who are you to judge?
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...but she was getting pretty upset and at one point she spanks him pretty badly. The child who must've been around 3 yr old started crying inconsolably. And she goes like "don't f.. cry now. You was asking for it"
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I do find the comments disagreeable. Parents should not interact with children on a even level, as if they, the children, are responsible for their actions, rather than the parent. It is an immature abdication of parental acknowlegment, most often exhibited by very young parents. Generally, I suspect that "self responsibility" was fostered upon the parent, prematurely, as a child. A cycle repeated by all too many, but often necessary in an environment where a child must learn self responsibility and to fend for itself as early as possible.
(A trait which slave mothers needed to instill as immediately as possible. *THINK*)
/dmf!
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I felt so bad for the little defenseless kid. I wanted to intervene....
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Really? To what true and effective extent and end? A public scolding and rebuke of the parent? To what purpose? To assuage your conscience? To sooth your affronted sensibilities? Surely, you don't think anything you are/were willing to do would in any way create a better circumstance for that or any child, do you?
Really, unless you were fully ready to assume FULL and COMPLETE responsibility of that child into adulthood, then what are you doing? Your entire notion is one of hypocracy! A feigned caring, for if it were true, then, indeed, you would not hesitate to step up.
Of course, such was never and is not your intention. That parent has to deal with that kid and that kid's life. Put food in its mouth and clothes on its back. Not you.
Consequently, one should keep their pious and biased sensibilities to themselves. They should S T F U and mind their own business.
Btw, if you think foster care, institutions, and public care is the answer, do some homework and think again. Overall, such is worse than the average poor parenting!
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....but I was highly outnumbered in that environment.
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What a truly prejudiced mindset! By whom were you outnumbered???? Truly a racist comment, and the mindset of a coward! Also, proving my point entirely! Your conscience is probably beating you up, cause you were wrong, is that why the post?
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Nobody said a word and to my surprise most people reacted as this a mundane incident.
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Mundane. Far from child abuse, particularly when you do not why! What it is, is YOU seeking to impose YOUR set of valuations upon a circumstance and environment which you are not a part, do not comprehend, and ultimately take no responsibility for. Hypocracy.
You see. You wished to REBUKE, becaue you were offended. If you truly were concerened, and had some b***, you w/h attempted to strike a conversation with the parent. You w/h put yourself in the parent's mind and though what has brought her to this way?
You might have said:
"It is really tough raising children. Does the child often react this way? Have you tried this or that? This is what I have found to work, try this. I am an experienced parent, if you need any advice, here is my number, call me anytime. Let me pay for your meal."
THAT is an example of *true* concern and action! Non Judgmental! Comprehending the state of that parent and child's environment. Not super imposing your set of values onto another, of whom you know nothing and have no comprehension!
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So, that brings me to the question of, how would you reacted to the verbal and physical abuse the child was receiving?
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Answered.
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Is there a quick and effective way to denounce these people?
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Opps, there it is AGAIN! "These people", can you not contain your LIBERAL prejudice and racism? Apparently, not!
Oh, there it is AGAIN! "Denouce", there it is. You have no true intention of concern whatsoever. Simply the affront of your sensibilities. What help is that?
Liberal cowardness.
/jcoltrane
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I also have seen similar incidents on the subway.
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Grab your B****, step up, or **** and mind your business. Either that, or find the empathy to walk in the shoes of others, but that w/b too human, and you're just a Transplant.
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Transplant, one who seeks to *transplant* and impose his alien values and ideas upon an environment which is not his own.
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Btw, my intention is, indeed, to rebuke.