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And just curious - how do you plan to control that?
When teens start to date there's no way it can go unnoticed. They start asking for more money, there's a big change in habits, uneven hours to get home.
I would call the parents back up and tell them that their daughter needs to talk to your son. I have no idea why parents would be involved in this. It is neither her parents place or yours to pass this information along. You are doing your son no favors acting as the go between.
I remember back in the day when my parents told me that I couldn't see a particular boyfriend. Oh yeah that worked. We still found ways to see each other. Your son is old enough to handle this his own way. I'd leave it between him and his girlfriend.
When teens start to date there's no way it can go unnoticed. They start asking for more money, there's a big change in habits, uneven hours to get home.
You indicated that you'd "not allow" it until they were self supporting - even through university. Keep in mind that university students are generally not teens for very long, and they are often not living at home. Dating does not have to be expensive - especially as a college student - there are many campus events that are inexpensive or free. You really won't have any control at a certain point. Nor should you.
I would call the parents back up and tell them that their daughter needs to talk to your son. I have no idea why parents would be involved in this. It is neither her parents place or yours to pass this information along. You are doing your son no favors acting as the go between.
When teens start to date there's no way it can go unnoticed. They start asking for more money, there's a big change in habits, uneven hours to get home.
They don't need anything to have feelings for each other. People can't help their feelings. Your kids will just go underground with their relationships.
When teens start to date there's no way it can go unnoticed. They start asking for more money, there's a big change in habits, uneven hours to get home.
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Originally Posted by maciesmom
You indicated that you'd "not allow" it until they were self supporting - even through university. Keep in mind that university students are generally not teens for very long, and they are often not living at home. Dating does not have to be expensive - especially as a college student - there are many campus events that are inexpensive or free. You really won't have any control at a certain point. Nor should you.
Took the words right out of my mouth maciesmom!
JayN - good luck with trying to control dating while they are at college. If you do I can guarantee they will not walk but run to get away from a parent that controlling as fast as they can.
I would call the parents back up and tell them that their daughter needs to talk to your son. I have no idea why parents would be involved in this. It is neither her parents place or yours to pass this information along. You are doing your son no favors acting as the go between.
hmmmm....are you a parent yet my friend?
You do not seem to understand the gravity of the situation, no offense
The boys parents HAVE to be involved because the girls parents have made it clear that he cannot see or talk to her.
THEY are in control. Our OP is doing HER JOB, which is to educate and protect her child to the best of her ability.
She HAS to pass along what the parents have requested or risk her son being accused of criminal activity such as stalking. All these very tightly wound parents have to do is call the police and file an official report, and before you know it, our OP and her family could be out thousands of dollars in lawyers fees to protect their son and his reputation.
She is indeed doing her son a huge favor by trying to handle this as sensitively and intelligently as possible.
They don't need anything to have feelings for each other. People can't help their feelings. Your kids will just go underground with their relationships.
Too bad for them. Keep the feelings for themselves. They might go underground, as long as I was the one paying, they would be home at decent hours and only top grades would be accepted.
JayN - good luck with trying to control dating while they are at college. If you do I can guarantee they will not walk but run to get away from a parent that controlling as fast as they can.
Well, I don't want kids, so it doesn't really matter but I always knew when my brother had a girlfriend long before he would tell me. It's just impossible to go unnoticed to close family.
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