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Old 07-04-2013, 09:57 AM
 
Location: the Chicago suburbs
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She woke up at about 2:30 in the afternoon with a hangover, never apologized for getting drunk and ranting. Pretty disappointed

 
Old 07-04-2013, 10:42 AM
 
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I have to say... You mentioned much earlier that your parents disliked your wife when she was your gf. Let me guess... They thought she was an fish-drinking bratty loser gf?

I find it completely amazing that she went out the first night after having your kid. I find it even more amazing that no one in her family sat there and said: "Nuh-uh, you had the baby. YOU stay with him and take care of him." Because that's how it would've been for me if I had a kid as a teenager and also scores of other teenaged mothers. The fact that no one did leads me to think that your boy being "well-mannered" had more to do with her (and your) family teaching him to be a good kid. They raised him, not your wife. They've done more than you think and are willing to admit. OP, you've actually had some nerve looking down on other teenaged parents and making generalized comments. Not so high and mighty now.


I don't know why you're sitting there pretending to be "pretty disappointed" when she never really apologizes for her actions. If you want her to, then obviously you need to confront her behavior, tell her what's she said and did and how it was rather inappropriate and all. Preferably with your counselor in the room because your wife is going go into a fit of rage.
 
Old 07-04-2013, 11:41 AM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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do you have a lawyer appt. yet?
 
Old 07-04-2013, 11:42 AM
 
Location: the Chicago suburbs
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I have to say... You mentioned much earlier that your parents disliked your wife when she was your gf. Let me guess... They thought she was an fish-drinking bratty loser gf?


I don't know why you're sitting there pretending to be "pretty disappointed" when she never really apologizes for her actions.
What makes you think I'm pretending? All I'm saying is that I'm disappointed she didn't apologize.
 
Old 07-04-2013, 11:43 AM
 
Location: the Chicago suburbs
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do you have a lawyer appt. yet?
No, no appt. yet
 
Old 07-04-2013, 11:45 AM
 
Location: here
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What makes you think I'm pretending? All I'm saying is that I'm disappointed she didn't apologize.
It isn't surprising, though, right? She never apologizes.
 
Old 07-04-2013, 11:45 AM
 
Location: the Chicago suburbs
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You mentioned much earlier that your parents disliked your wife when she was your gf. Let me guess... They thought she was an fish-drinking bratty loser gf?
Yes, that is exactly what they thought
 
Old 07-04-2013, 11:48 AM
 
Location: the Chicago suburbs
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After she woke up and ( after I had my disappointed feeling) I told her about the things she had said and she stood by them and refused to have any " yeah maybe that was out of line" moments.
 
Old 07-04-2013, 11:50 AM
 
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What makes you think I'm pretending? All I'm saying is that I'm disappointed she didn't apologize.
Because you know how your wife is. Why are you disappointed? This is how your wife is. Why can't you accept that? You knew that change wasn't going to come easy if it does at all.
 
Old 07-04-2013, 01:40 PM
 
Location: Dallas
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I have to say... You mentioned much earlier that your parents disliked your wife when she was your gf. Let me guess... They thought she was an fish-drinking bratty loser gf?

I find it completely amazing that she went out the first night after having your kid. I find it even more amazing that no one in her family sat there and said: "Nuh-uh, you had the baby. YOU stay with him and take care of him." Because that's how it would've been for me if I had a kid as a teenager and also scores of other teenaged mothers. The fact that no one did leads me to think that your boy being "well-mannered" had more to do with her (and your) family teaching him to be a good kid. They raised him, not your wife. They've done more than you think and are willing to admit. OP, you've actually had some nerve looking down on other teenaged parents and making generalized comments. Not so high and mighty now.


I don't know why you're sitting there pretending to be "pretty disappointed" when she never really apologizes for her actions. If you want her to, then obviously you need to confront her behavior, tell her what's she said and did and how it was rather inappropriate and all. Preferably with your counselor in the room because your wife is going go into a fit of rage.
From what OP has said, her parents gave in to her her entire childhood; why would they change? I'm just shocked that she had the energy and desire to go out partying with the girls the day after giving birth. And what was the point of telling her son that? Another hurtful comment, IMO. The unspoken message was the pregnancy was an inconvenience and obstacle to her partying.
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