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In a few days I will have a high school graduate. What kinds of things did you expect from your child (or will you expect from your child) after they've graduated? I'm looking for things like rules, chores, jobs, just general expectations I guess. Did you let them have the summer "off" and do whatever or did you expect them to start acting more like an adult and start having more responsibilities and planning for their future?
I am in the same boat. We are moving when we sell the house, my son is going to move into a house share so he can go to Nassau community college. once he finishes High school, he will be doing his own laundry and I expect him to cook dinner for the family once a week until he moves out. Once he gets his drivers license I will probably have him do the food shopping. Mostly I am interested in him doing chores that he will need once he's no longer in the nest. next on my list is cleaning the kitchen.
Since he is going to school full time I expect that he will work part time in order to cover his entertainment expenses, but we will cover room, board and gas. If he drops out then he will slowly take on responsibility for supporting himself or he'll have to move down to florida with us.
My expectations would be that my child had reasonable expectations of what the next step would be towards independence.
I don't understand the thinking that a job hunt can begin after school lets out. Even in our fairly rural area, my kids never had difficulty finding a summer job. They started looking over the winter holiday break, and knew what they would be doing by spring break.
No, summer was not considered a 3 month vacation around here. They all went away for college, and were happy to have money in their accounts by August.
Does said graduate have any plans for what the next step is?
Trade school
college
full time work
That would be at the top of my list for what I expect, I would expect my graduate to have a plan for the next phase of life.
He's planning on going to a community college in the fall. He will have grants that will cover most, if not all of the tuition but he will be responsible for covering whatever the grants do not. I expect him to have a job but he's not found one as of yet. He has been filling out applications but he hasn't even gotten one interview.
I guess I was planning on making his full time job to find a job. The college he wants to attend is 11/2 hours away and he has no car or license yet either. I've told him numerous times that if he plans to attend that school he needs to find a way to get himself there. In general, he's very unmotivated. Most of his friends just "hang out" and have fun all day and I think he expects to do the same. I was fairly certain that was not the norm so I figured I'd ask on here.
I think it seems late to be having this discussion. Why does he think he can vacation for 3 mo? Has he not worked previous summers? I thin you need to sit down with him and get it all laid out so everyone is on the same page.
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