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Old 06-11-2013, 03:44 PM
 
Location: Zurich
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I am just wondering, since I am about to have my first child. I mainly fell uncertain. Even though I have a reasonably high-paying job, I still have jitters that I might not be able to provide for my child or that I might screw up along the road. How did you guys feel?
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Old 06-11-2013, 04:28 PM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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Elated of course but anxious as well. I don't think it would be human to feel less than a little bit anxious about being a good parent. I think this shows you are mature enough to know a bit about the world and the pitfalls. With all the possible scenarios for hurt and damage, it's a wonder any of us live to see maturity---yet most of us do.
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Old 06-11-2013, 04:41 PM
 
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Both of us were VERY happy, excited, and definitely looking forward to it....as were the grandparents to be....The main thing you need to provide is LOVE, and that's easy.
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Old 06-11-2013, 05:06 PM
 
Location: Finland
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Absolutely terrified! She was unplanned though and I was in a terrible financial situation so there was a lot to be frightened of.
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Old 06-11-2013, 05:12 PM
 
Location: Zurich
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....as were the grandparents to be....
Well, I don't have a good relationship with my father, as growing up he was more interested in owning gambling houses and law firms than rather be a concerned parent. My mother died when I was 12, and I still sometimes have bouts of depression over her death. Her parents HATE me with a passion, and when she told her parents she was pregnant, her father called me and chewed me out over the phone. He was ranting for about an hour and a half, so I hung up on him.
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Old 06-11-2013, 05:39 PM
 
Location: WI
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I was over the moon, but a little nervous as well. I think that is natural- after all, you are bringing a living person into the world! It's important to provide for your child as best you can, but always remember that most of us turn out OK despite our parents' shortfalls.
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Old 06-11-2013, 06:09 PM
 
Location: S. Florida
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I was thrilled. But my husband got NERVOUS!!! lol
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Old 06-11-2013, 06:11 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Well, I don't have a good relationship with my father, as growing up he was more interested in owning gambling houses and law firms than rather be a concerned parent. My mother died when I was 12, and I still sometimes have bouts of depression over her death. Her parents HATE me with a passion, and when she told her parents she was pregnant, her father called me and chewed me out over the phone. He was ranting for about an hour and a half, so I hung up on him.
Well, it sounds like you have a lot to deal with anyway, in addition to being a parent.

Have you been together long?
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Old 06-11-2013, 06:20 PM
 
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We were excited and a bit nervous. What worked to calm the baby didn't always work every time . Parenthood is an adventure for sure. Having 5 daughters,each little miracle was an experience of it's own. At times,tending to babies is trial and error...My girls now range from 44 to 23 so I guess we did something right!!!
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Old 06-11-2013, 06:25 PM
 
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I am just wondering, since I am about to have my first child. I mainly fell uncertain. Even though I have a reasonably high-paying job, I still have jitters that I might not be able to provide for my child or that I might screw up along the road. How did you guys feel?
And by the way WRolle Congratulations and I wish you the best when baby arrives
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