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1. It might be time to put him in his big boy bed, a family bed has to be working for both the mother and father. That's a mutual choice.
2. 3 year olds can not be spoiled by hugs and pats on the back, they need that to feel secure and grounded in the big world they are discovering.
3. If your husband is trying to force "rough and tumble" play on your son and he's reacting negatively, then your husband is using an approach that will only drive a wedge between them.
Hugging and kissing your son? Wretch. How do you expect him to grow into a cold, emotionally-repressed all-American man if you keep nurturing him and showing him how much is he loved and valued?
I had one of these unloved and subsequently unloving, cold, and distant fathers. He failed in many ways.
Hug him, squeeze him, kiss his boo-boos, etc etc. Won't harm him in the least. The real way to damage a kid is with emotional suppression (might want to have this explained to Dad), over-sheltering, or doing for him what he's capable of.
Mothers are here to nurture the kids. Two people babying him is too much.
Mothers are here to nurture the kids. Two people babying him is too much.
So, skating for a while with this promotion of gender roles in parenting, would you also say that "Fathers are there to discipline their kids. Two parents disciplining them is too much"? Jc...
So, skating for a while with this promotion of gender roles in parenting, would you also say that "Fathers are there to discipline their kids. Two parents disciplining them is too much"? Jc...
Yes, it was always the father's role, a good beating.
Yes, it was always the father's role, a good beating.
Screw that. I couldn't be with a woman who didn't help with the discipline, and quite frankly, I would commend any woman who said the same about men and the show of affection to their child.
I never considered affection something to ration out. It's always been spontaneous and frequent when it comes to my kids. I would hate to fight the urge to hug, kiss, etc. because I already did it a few hours back. Cuddling a small child you love is the sweetest feeling in the world.
I never considered affection something to ration out. It's always been spontaneous and frequent when it comes to my kids. I would hate to fight the urge to hug, kiss, etc. because I already did it a few hours back. Cuddling a small child you love is the sweetest feeling in the world.
Men in the past managed very well without it. I tried to hug my grandfather as a kid one day. He didn't say anything but his blue eyes turned ice cold. There's a fine line of respect that shouldn't be crossed.
Men in the past managed very well without it. I tried to hug my grandfather as a kid one day. He didn't say anything but his blue eyes turned ice cold.
Umm, why?
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Originally Posted by JayN
There's a fine line of respect that shouldn't be crossed.
How does this cross a "line of respect", for a kid to want to hug his grandfather? No offense, but you're not making any sense at all.
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