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Well, some women do that. The vast majority just wish to feed a baby and go about their daily lives. I'm not convinced most former strippers/porn-stars/glamour models actually nurse their babies.
Actually she rewarded the husband. Since the waitress seemed to think he handled the money in the family.
Anyone else think it was weird that the note said, "please thank your wife for breastfeeding" Why didn't the waitress write, "Yay. Happy to see breastfeeding. Pizza is on me!" (?) Thank the husband when the wife is breastfeeding? That's a new one. No. If you're going to thank someone, thank the WOMAN that she is breastfeeding. He's not doing a thing.
True. Probably the waitress even assumed a breastfeeding woman wouldn't work and have money of her own.
Women themselves make breasts erotic. It's women who pose bare breasted for money, women exposing their breasts to lure men, women paying good money to have silicone breasts, not because plastic breasts help a baby nurse but because women use breasts to be sex objects
Again this is YOUR hang up. Even that bastion of good old boys in North Carolina recognize that breastfeeding is not indecent, inherently, even if you see a breast.
Women who breastfeed are de-sexualizing their breast, which is probably what really bothers you.
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But again breast feeding mothers have always figured out how to be discreet unless they want to make it obvious, which seems how many women today want to make it.
Is it obvious when you feed a baby a bottle? Yes, you can see the bottle, and the baby. SO OBVIOUS. Breastfeeding is no different.
And are you an adult? Are you capable of looking away? Then look away and stop expecting women to do what you want when you are the one with the issue.
Women themselves make breasts erotic. It's women who pose bare breasted for money, women exposing their breasts to lure men, women paying good money to have silicone breasts, not because plastic breasts help a baby nurse but because women use breasts to be sex objects.
But again breast feeding mothers have always figured out how to be discreet unless they want to make it obvious, which seems how many women today want to make it.
I have never done any of those things. Besides, it's men who have sexualized breasts. Let's get real. Anyhow, the important thing here is that babies need to be fed and that can happen in public at times. You just need to learn to look away if it bothers you.
If a woman displays her nipples when breastfeeding, it's pretty obvious that's what she meant to do, she meant to make a show, my mom breastfed and in public but no one was the wiser. Women today didn't invent breastfeeding, and very likely you've been in many places with breastfeeding babies that you never were aware of because it can be discreet.
This waitress rewarded the mom who made it obvious, but some women keep themselves covered, others feed the baby before leaving the house, others prefer to go to their car --are they any less as mothers? There are women who breastfeed for two years, no formula but never choose to breastfeed in public, are they lesser mothers? And if a shyer woman breastfeeds at home but brings a bottle to use at a restaurant, is she lower than dirt or the woman for whatever reason cannot or does not breastfeed but truly loves her baby?
What a bunch of hyperbolic nonsense.
If a woman shows nipple, it is generally very brief, she is having some trouble latching the baby on, or it is an older baby who "pulls off" to look around.
No one is saying a mom can't/shouldn't CHOOSE to use a cover, go to the car, etc., but the decision should not be made out of a feeling of SHAME because there is no need for shame when you are simply feeding your baby.
And no, the woman who brings a bottle isn't "lower than dirt" (jeez, dramatic much?) but she should be aware, especially if her child is younger, that introducing bottles unecessarily like that is risking nipple confusion and could be detrimental to her nursing relationship. She should understand the risks she might be taking in order to appease the general public and I'd probably advise her to reconsider, but she's certainly not a "lesser mother".
I am glad it was no big deal for you, it wasn't for me either. But for many woman it does not come "naturally" due to both biological issues and societal pressures. For those women, the support of others, even if it just an "atta girl" might BE empowering and acknowledgement of their own struggle to do what is best for them and their child.
I am all for normalizing breastfeeding but if we refuse to acknowledge that it can be both normal AND at least sometimes a struggle worthy of support, we are going to make women for whom it does not come "naturally" feel even less "normal".
I grant that it can be a struggle for some women, lots of things that most of us take for granted can be a struggle for other people. Isn't it sort of presumptuous to give an attagirl to a stranger for something like that though?
I mean if it were an issue someone struggled with, and the people close to her knew of it, then a word of praise or support from them is great. Going to a group meeting for support and receiving it is great, but for random strangers to make comments about things that are of a very personal nature like that...no thank you. Seems as out of place to comment on that as it would be to run up to a stanger with a couple of kids and congratulate her on being able to keep her figure in spite of childbirth, just weird and uncalled for.
It's tedious when men sexualize strangers breasteeding, but it's downright disappointing when women do it.
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