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Old 11-20-2007, 01:05 PM
 
Location: huh?
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Believe it or not, some people don't do things for the sole recognition or fame.

Perhaps...just maybe...some people are doing it for their baby.
yes exactly what i was just saying. there are safety/health issues involved with epidurals and babies/mothers.
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Old 11-20-2007, 04:06 PM
 
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I'm due on Thursday with my first and was in for a non-stress test and amniotic fluid index yesterday. The nurse asked me how I was going to deliver the baby. It took me a second to figure out what she meant and I replied "The old-fashioned way." That seemed like a weird question--are elective c-sections really that common?
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Old 11-20-2007, 04:22 PM
 
Location: huh?
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who knows, probably not but they are definitely done frequently "just to be on the safe side/fear of lawsuit". other times it is indeed an emergency. im sure there are some women who ask for one ahead of time because of personal reasons and the dr relents even if it is not medically necessary. congrats to you and best wishes for a good birth experience!
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Old 11-20-2007, 09:31 PM
 
Location: CA
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But if makes you proud to endure that much pain - good for you!
tamcim - I thought your post was funny... My first born was a natural child birth - I wouldn't recommend it to anyone. But I've come across many women who like to brag about it for some reason.
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Old 11-24-2007, 03:49 PM
 
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I had an epi with the first and natural at home for the second. The pain was intense and the labor was 24 hours, but I wouldn't have chosen an epi or at the hospital if I had to do it again. I feel empowered and proud of myself. I chose what was best for me and my baby. We spent the next week pretty much in bed (thanks Mom for watching my oldest) as is recommended for all new Moms and having a sweet little one cuddled up to me and not drugged (first slept for 3 days) is the BEST! I know after that that I can handle just bout anything life throws at me. It is a wonderful feeling!
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Old 11-25-2007, 07:57 AM
 
Location: Camberville
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The thing with epidurals that bothers me is that if you plan on getting one, sometimes there either isn't time or they simply don't work. I'd rather mentally prepare to be in pain (which works for me- I deal with it better) than be surprised. :P

I do think having a drug free birth can certainly be more empowering, but that's not the point of giving birth to most mothers. Births should be as positive an experience as medically able, and if for some women that means you need to be drugged up to the hilt to not freak out, then great. If that means you threaten any nurse who comes near you with an epidural that you'll file a lawsuit, good job for you too.
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Old 11-27-2007, 02:31 AM
 
Location: Mount Vernon, WA
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I think that first time mothers are so open to impressions from other women, books they read, doctors they have, classes they go to that it is very overwhelming. I had my first child naturally - only because I didn't know I had a choice or I was so intimidated by the company I kept. Seriously. My second was in a hospital in an overseas country - and I'm not telling you where because it was so traumatic. But they did let me know that I could have an epidural. Unfortunately it was so late that it didn't have time to work before the baby came. By the time I had my third, again in this same country although by now I was a lot smarter and changed doctors and hospitals (my doctor took that precise time to come to the US) I knew better and asked for the epidural ahead of time. Yahoo! I don't know if they gave me a low dose or whatever but my babies were quite wakeful as opposed to what I'm hearing here.
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Old 11-27-2007, 09:07 AM
 
Location: Dallas, Texas
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I've heard that the pain of a natural birth can be deeply psychologically disturbing to the mother...if that was not what she truly wanted or changed her mind too late...and can interfere with bonding. Anyone else heard this?
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Old 11-27-2007, 09:38 AM
 
Location: NE Florida
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Nope, never heard that. I have heard that a baby with colic can have that effect.

And having children has been shown to be deeply psychologically disturbing.
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Old 11-27-2007, 09:50 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, TN
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I've heard that the pain of a natural birth can be deeply psychologically disturbing to the mother...if that was not what she truly wanted or changed her mind too late...and can interfere with bonding. Anyone else heard this?
I know that after I had my second child, I went into shock, I stared at the ceiling for about 24 hours and couldn't snap out of it. My labor was so horrible. I still held my baby and fed her, but the bonding was delayed for about 3 or 4 days with her . It was an awful experience, I wish I would of made it to the hospital in time for an epidural.

I will say that my labor without the epidural, I recovered physically much more quickly than the labor with the epidural. But the experience I had without an epidural was not worth it at all.

HIF, that's hilarious!!!
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