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Old 08-25-2013, 10:21 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, TX
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One of my girls looks just like her daddy, the other one looks like me. Besides having her daddy's golden skin, dark hair, and dark eyes, my oldest is very tall. Her sister is short and solid, with pale pink skin and freckles. A lot of people assume that our girls have different fathers, but they don't usually mention it in front of the hubby, since our oldest so clearly looks just like him. Instead, they'll wait until it's just me and ask, "Was your younger daughter's dad really short?" The first few times someone asked that, it freaked me out. Now I think it's kind of funny, as long as they don't say it within my daughter's hearing, because she is sensitive about being tiny.
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Old 08-26-2013, 01:06 AM
 
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"She's so cute. She must look like her Daddy"

To which I responded "I don't know. I didn't get a good look at his face".


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Milkman for me!
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Old 08-26-2013, 09:30 AM
 
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... I can see a lot of people looking at me funny when I go out with my younger son.

I honestly cant even imagine anyone judging you or your son regarding how you two look. It isn't even on the list of what I would think when looking at you, and I suspect that YOU think they are looking at you differently because you feel differently.
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Old 08-26-2013, 11:42 AM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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When our Korean born daughter became a beautiful teenager and was out with her father he became painfully aware of how people looked at him. I would deliberately walk behind them in malls and shopping to see it for myself and sure enough people were making judgements and some even whispered to a companion while they looked at them in disgust. it really was sad.

Also when she was 19 we adopted 2 babies from Vietnam. She has always looked younger than she is and at 19 looked about 13. She finally told me she just could not be in public with her little sisters because of the way people looked at her. The judgements people jump to can be so hurtful.
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Old 08-26-2013, 01:32 PM
 
Location: Foot of the Rockies
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When our Korean born daughter became a beautiful teenager and was out with her father he became painfully aware of how people looked at him. I would deliberately walk behind them in malls and shopping to see it for myself and sure enough people were making judgements and some even whispered to a companion while they looked at them in disgust. it really was sad.

Also when she was 19 we adopted 2 babies from Vietnam. She has always looked younger than she is and at 19 looked about 13. She finally told me she just could not be in public with her little sisters because of the way people looked at her. The judgements people jump to can be so hurtful.
That is sad!
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Old 08-22-2014, 02:12 PM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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When my youngest came out with blond hair and blue eyes, I was the one giving out curious looks.
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Old 08-23-2014, 12:50 AM
 
Location: CO
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Good one, kudzu!
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Old 08-23-2014, 10:44 AM
 
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I know this is an old post, but I had a funny happening once. I was trying to pick my daughter up from summer camp and it was taking a long time. I was worried a bit and started walking back to the room they were in calling her name. And a man came up and tried to give me someone else's kid. I scanned the room and saw my daughter looking very concerned. I walked up to her and picked her up.

The man was more then embarrassed, and apologized profusely (my daughter had come up when he called her name but he told her she wasn't the right girl and sent her away). But what mortified him was he was a man of color and was adopted by white parents and couldn't believe he would have made that mistake.

No one was scarred for life, I kind of think of it as funny (the interesting kind, not the haha kind)...as much as the world is changing, peoples expectations are often predictable.
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Old 08-23-2014, 01:02 PM
 
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No I have not run into issues although neither of my children look like me (and I am the mother). But I would like to see myself in there somewhere

Can see it would be remarkable if a blond or redhead popped up in dark parents, but it happens. That chromosome soup mixes as it will.

And both my children have changed their looks completely as they have aged/matured.

maybe the issue if there is one would be in the young years and once they attain some age and maturity they become themselves.
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Old 08-24-2014, 03:10 AM
 
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My oldest son looks nothing like me, was once asked if my best friend was his mother. My youngest looks just like me so no issues there!
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