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What is fire according to you. When is it serious enough not to ignore?
O P. tells us his kid cries every time the grandparents watching her. That to me doesn't sound right.
Any responsible parent should be concerned and at least listen to your child!
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Did you read the OP? I think not. The child in question isn't "afraid" of the grandparents. She reverts to a baby-like manner around them in his presence. He doesn't like it. He "broke" his wife of this behavior. So no, there is no fire.
Okay, from the replies let me clarify a few things:
1. "I broke my wife..." perhaps a better of saying it would be "When we met, she was much younger and a series of life events that I have helped her though has made her a more confident, emotionally strong and mature woman."
2. The notion that I am an emotionless person and that she confides in the grandparents - The grandparents are not warm people in terms of snuggling and showing physical affection. In fact, they do not show physical affection in a cuddling way. They are serial micromanagers, and from the minute they are in the picture, they micromanage the heck out of the child. I tell my kids I love them every day, and am the one who is giving the majority of kisses and hugs in the household.
3. I understand 4 yr olds cry - I get it. Crying because certain people in the picture to me is odd and not typical behavior and my concern is that it will affect her education as it is currently doing so in her school, so if I can figure out why, I can prevent problems down the road - the same problems that I saw my wife go through.
3. I understand 4 yr olds cry - I get it. Crying because certain people in the picture to me is odd and not typical behavior and my concern is that it will affect her education as it is currently doing so in her school, so if I can figure out why, I can prevent problems down the road - the same problems that I saw my wife go through.
I think someone brought this up already, but have you talked to your wife about this? If this is something she went through, then wouldn't she be the best person to help your daughter? Strangers on the internet can only guess at what is going on, and really don't know the situation.
I think someone brought this up already, but have you talked to your wife about this? If this is something she went through, then wouldn't she be the best person to help your daughter? Strangers on the internet can only guess at what is going on, and really don't know the situation.
Yeah, that was the first place I went to and she said she didn't know. She is and has always been reluctant to speak about her parents in a critical way. You just can't be critical of them or inquire about them, they can do no wrong in her eyes, so I have to tread lightly on that topic and know my boundaries.
As for asking the child herself, have you ever tried to get an answer from a 4 year old? I would get a better answer asking the wall.
Okay, from the replies let me clarify a few things:
1. "I broke my wife..." perhaps a better of saying it would be "When we met, she was much younger and a series of life events that I have helped her though has made her a more confident, emotionally strong and mature woman."
2. The notion that I am an emotionless person and that she confides in the grandparents - The grandparents are not warm people in terms of snuggling and showing physical affection. In fact, they do not show physical affection in a cuddling way. They are serial micromanagers, and from the minute they are in the picture, they micromanage the heck out of the child. I tell my kids I love them every day, and am the one who is giving the majority of kisses and hugs in the household.
3. I understand 4 yr olds cry - I get it. Crying because certain people in the picture to me is odd and not typical behavior and my concern is that it will affect her education as it is currently doing so in her school, so if I can figure out why, I can prevent problems down the road - the same problems that I saw my wife go through.
No. 2. This is the problem. You answered it.
A family therapist maybe can help your wife feel comfortable approaching her parents about this? Otherwise, you can help your daughter the way you helped your wife. If Gparents are going to be in your lives, you are going to have to learn to manage their relationship with all of you, not just your daughter.
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