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Old 11-13-2013, 04:47 AM
 
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One thing that has always amazed me is how men can simply believe their children are truly theirs. Not so much these days when there are paternity tests available, but especially in the past.

For example, my brothers and I are the splitting image of our father but that could not be the case. Even that doesn't prove anything.

How can they sign the birth certificate without knowing for sure that child has the same blood in their veins?

 
Old 11-13-2013, 04:52 AM
 
Location: Pérouges
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Love? Trust? Respect of their wife/partner?

Those were enough for me.
 
Old 11-13-2013, 04:58 AM
 
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Love? Trust? Respect of their wife/partner?
That's a very questionable criteria though.
 
Old 11-13-2013, 05:02 AM
 
Location: Pérouges
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That's a very questionable criteria though.
Then might I suggest you don't adopt it.

If you don't feel those criteria are sufficient then maybe it wouldn't be advisable to be having a child with them in the first place.
 
Old 11-13-2013, 05:15 AM
 
Location: North Carolina
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That's a very questionable criteria though.
Why? It would be irrational, paranoid, and unfair to suspect (or expect) betrayal from someone who has never given him reason to doubt her. If she has given him reason to doubt her, he shouldn't be having children with her in the first place.

It sounds like you've got some major trust issues and this is always going to compromise your relationships. I suggest you don't have children until you learn how to trust.
 
Old 11-13-2013, 05:37 AM
 
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Why? It would be irrational, paranoid, and unfair to suspect (or expect) betrayal from someone who has never given him reason to doubt her. If she has given him reason to doubt her, he shouldn't be having children with her in the first place.
It would be pretty stupid to be raising a child that isn't yours.

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It sounds like you've got some major trust issues and this is always going to compromise your relationships. I suggest you don't have children until you learn how to trust.
If I had kids I would surely get a paternity test done.
 
Old 11-13-2013, 05:41 AM
 
Location: NY
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Lets see. Presumably, in this scenario, your married or in an LTR, have a loving, healthy, and presumably faithful relationship with her. You are active with her. She misses her time of the month the next time around after you have been active with her, and some 9 months later a baby shows up.

What would the reasoning here be of mistrust, doubt, or suspicion that this child isn't yours?

If you have not built a relationship where you trust that your partner is faithful, why would you be having unprotected sex with her in the first place?
 
Old 11-13-2013, 05:43 AM
 
Location: Houston, Tx
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One thing that has always amazed me is how men can simply believe their children are truly theirs. Not so much these days when there are paternity tests available, but especially in the past.

For example, my brothers and I are the splitting image of our father but that could not be the case. Even that doesn't prove anything.

How can they sign the birth certificate without knowing for sure that child has the same blood in their veins?
I think you answered your own question. Men back then didn't know for sure, but now we have DNA test.
 
Old 11-13-2013, 05:44 AM
 
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If I had kids I would surely get a paternity test done.
Okay then.
 
Old 11-13-2013, 05:47 AM
 
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I think you answered your own question. Men back then didn't know for sure, but now we have DNA test.
I've been tempted to ask my father what he thinks but I'm not sure how he'll react.
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