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Old 11-29-2007, 09:00 AM
 
Location: Little Pond Farm
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As a parent can I tell an employer that I do not want my 17 year old working at the place of business? I did that and was informed she was working today in a different capacity then originally hired for but still the same company.
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Old 11-29-2007, 10:00 AM
 
Location: Land of Thought and Flow
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I don't know for sure if you can - it really depends where you live. Some states say yes and others say no. IMHO, if you don't want your daughter working there, then talk to her about quitting and finding something else.

Edit: The reason I say talk to your daughter is because at 17, you should be trying to release the reins and make her into an adult who makes her own decisions.

If she's really happy there, I wouldn't get involved.
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Old 11-29-2007, 10:42 AM
 
Location: Little Pond Farm
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Yes she's happy, she makes a lot of money for a 17 year old.......

The job is a waitress in a Truck Stop where she makes over 100.00 a day for 6 hours.

The problem is with the people she's met there. She went from being a wonderful straight A responsible kid to a lying, irresponsible, nasty teenager. I fear that all she's worked hard for is going to go down the drain. She's angry that we can't afford the 30,000 per year school she wants to go to....
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Old 11-29-2007, 10:49 AM
 
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Yes she's happy, she makes a lot of money for a 17 year old.......

The job is a waitress in a Truck Stop where she makes over 100.00 a day for 6 hours.

The problem is with the people she's met there. She went from being a wonderful straight A responsible kid to a lying, irresponsible, nasty teenager. I fear that all she's worked hard for is going to go down the drain. She's angry that we can't afford the 30,000 per year school she wants to go to....
I would argue her nastiness is due more to angst of restricted opportunities rather than working as a waitress. Sounds as if she's trying to save up money herself to go to school.
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Old 11-29-2007, 05:43 PM
 
Location: Land of Thought and Flow
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Yes she's happy, she makes a lot of money for a 17 year old.......

The job is a waitress in a Truck Stop where she makes over 100.00 a day for 6 hours.

The problem is with the people she's met there. She went from being a wonderful straight A responsible kid to a lying, irresponsible, nasty teenager. I fear that all she's worked hard for is going to go down the drain. She's angry that we can't afford the 30,000 per year school she wants to go to....
It sounds like what every teenager does when they get a job. They get a taste for money and do a flip-flop in personality. Most teenagers nowadays try to be mainstream, though, the current mainstream is not to be an angel.

I don't think it's just the job that has changed her.

Most teenagers get angry when their parents tell them that they can't afford something. Especially something like College. But, don't bust your butt trying to afford it - there are all sorts of grants, loans and such to help with this.

A bit of advice: Help her with the admissions to see if she's even accepted to this school she wants to go to. Then assist her with the FAFSA.

Like I said, release the reins a bit and have her take them over. If she starts to complain, let her know why you're letting her do what she needs to get what she wants. Let her know that she's becoming an adult and you want to make the transition as smooth as possible.

As for the job thing, if she's happy and earning money - then I'd say let her. Unless she's being abused and such, there should be no concern.

Just remember, she's 17 - in less than a year she will be an adult and fully responsible for herself in the world according to our government. You're being a great parent by being concerned for her well-being. Hopefully, she'll understand this.
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