Selfish kids at Christmas time.

[regarese]

Originally Posted by michelleritterva

My oldest doesn't care that it hurt my feelings. His response this morning was "didn't you feel sorry for me enough to go get what I wanted now?"

I cannot even imagine the wrath, and pain for that matter, I would have experienced if I ever said something like that to my mother (who also didn't always have a lot of extra $$ for a lot of gifts during the holidays). And then when the generous grandparents found out about it....I would have gotten it from them too and they would have taken their gifts back. I probably would still not be receiving presents from her now and I'm in my 30s. LOL. I'm so sorry you had to hear him say that to you.

[Roselvr]

Originally Posted by michelleleigh

Okay my son will be four since he was 2 (like he will rember) I have let him pick out toys he would like then we give them to charity. It probably means nothing now but hopefully it will help him be giving when he grows u[p.

Originally Posted by michelleritterva

My oldest doesn't care that it hurt my feelings. His response this morning was "didn't you feel sorry for me enough to go get what I wanted now?"

How old is the boy that said this?

I can remember a few Christmas's where I really wanted something.. A Mrs. Beasley doll, a Buffy wig and a Buffy doll with a small Mrs. Beasley doll. To this day I remember the hurt of not getting those. We didn't ask for much.. I would have been happy with one thing, but my mother hated the show and stuff associated with it. For me to buy it today at a doll show would cost thousands.

Every year I ask my kids what they want and what they "really" want. Within reason, I will try my hardest. I also start shopping very early, so that if I see a really good sale, I will pick it up. My daughter loves perfume, which is not cheap. Last year after Christmas I went nuts on 1/2 price perfume. She got every one she likes, J Lo Glo; Brittney (2 varieties), Crush as well as a few others. The only one I paid full price for was Nollie

[Donna7]

Originally Posted by michelleritterva

My oldest doesn't care that it hurt my feelings. His response this morning was "didn't you feel sorry for me enough to go get what I wanted now?"

Michelle, know that kids will say that which they know will bother you or get to you. Remain strong and continue being the parent that you are. In the end, your love and support of your children means infinitely more than any gift you could buy. I know that this might sound crazy now, but it's true. There will come a time when your children value and cherish you for who you are. Keep strong, keep being true to yourself, stick to your guns. That will mean more to your kids than anything else. Best wishes for an abundant (in all ways) new year 2008!

[Drouzin]

Originally Posted by michelleritterva

My oldest doesn't care that it hurt my feelings. His response this morning was "didn't you feel sorry for me enough to go get what I wanted now?"

I worked with a para who would have had the perfect speech for your son. She used to use it on some of my students when they started feeling sorry for themselves:

Did you wake up this morning? Well, today hundreds of little kids didn't. Were you able to walk to the bathroom? Well, today several little kids couldn't. Did you eat breakfast today? Well, today millions of kids haven't. Did you tell your parent/grandparent goodbye when you came to school today? Well, today millions of children out there don't have anyone to say goodbye to. So tell me who should I feel sorry for?

Don't feel too badly about your son's intentional guilt trip. Remember when you were a child, you did the same thing. I know we've all done the, "but Mooomm, if I don't get it so and so will make fun of me," or, "I just knew you didn't love me," or, "I knew it! I'm adopted and you just don't want to tell me, (used when younger sister got the bigger room)."