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I'm almost 20 years old, and this week I'm having corrective underbite surgery. Both my parents are more scared than I am- I mean, I'm scared too, but I'm trying not to hype myself up too much--I wanna be calm.
My mother is scared because I'm gonna "look different", and I guess she doesn't want me to, even though I'll look different in a positive way. I don't think I'd be unrecognizable, since reconisability(that's not a word) is usually in the eyes, not the jaw.
I've tried to explain to her that my underbite is affecting not only my self esteem, but my way of living--Not being able to smile properly and not being to perfectly bite into a sandwich sucks major balls!
I think my father low key hates the idea, but he's more "whatever makes her happy" about the whole situation.
I just think they're being too dramatic, the surgery won't change ME as a person.
But they're also from a time that when you had a flaw, you dealt with it and went on with your life.
It sounds just as much medical as it does cosmetic. No, I wouldn't find that insulting. If my child had my nose and wanted it changed, or something, maybe.
I'm all for corrective surgery at a proper age and this seems right. I would have a problem with breast augmentation surgery for a 16 year old or tummy tuck or something like that. Our son had his ears pinned back at age 6. he looked like Dumbo---sorry but it is true. I'm so glad we did it when we did.
Had a cousin who had breast reduction at 20 but only after her father heard some men talking about her in a filling station. He was mortified even though she had been begging for it for years. But once he heard first hand what she had to go through he was all for it.
I agree with Kibbiekat. I think your reasons are beyond just cosmetic. And if it's affecting your quality of life, then I'd think they might be more supportive. Maybe tell your mom that Your dad just may not like surgery, and since you are 20, then technically you are an adult and don't really need their permission (although their support is nice )
Your reasons of getting your underbite corrected sounds perfectly reasonable. I would be supportive if my child wanted to have a corrective surgery similar to yours. It is not like you want to get a boob job done and going for a DDDD cup.
You are doing the right thing. You will feel better and look better. Parents think their children are perfect just the way they are and they are probably worried about complications.
It sounds like you have thought through the surgery and I agree with others that this sounds more medical than cosmetic. That said, your parents aren't over reacting, they are just being parents. They worry about your safety, they worry about how others will react to you, they worry about the finances (even if they aren't paying for it, they still worry about your money).
Don't spend too much time thinking about what they think, or even talking about it with them. You informed them, and of course you should remind them of the surgery date the week of, but it's none of their business and all their doubts won't even be remembered a year from now.
You are doing the right thing. You will feel better and look better. Parents think their children are perfect just the way they are and they are probably worried about complications.
I agree. Parents can be a bit blind about their own children---every mother thinks her child is the most beautiful
I would not care if my kids wanted to have plastic surgery. There are many bad traits handed down in family's, if someone inherited a huge nose, why not have it fixed? Would not bother me one bit.
Good luck to you!
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Your dad just may not like surgery, and since you are 20, then technically you are an adult and don't really need their permission (although their support is nice 
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