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You don't have to go to every party and you don't always have to bring a gift to every single party you attend. Many people have housewarming parties and have no desire in gifts. I had one last year and I didn't want gifts. I wanted to meet my new neighbors.
Of course not. I am specifically referring to people with gigantic "Wish Lists" and registries at every place on the planet that pratically hound invitees about what they are getting. I've even seen people chastise others on the list about what they plan to get so other guests know what not to buy. That's not wanting to have fun and hang out with friends. It's exhortion.
I've only heard of it as an alternative for children who have summer birthdays but still want to celebrate or bring goodies to their classmates during the year. I don't know anyone that has two full birthday parties with cake and presents for the same child each year. The parents I know throw a party if they want a party- they don't use an excuse like a half-birthday.
Housewarming, yeah, but a "gender reveal party" (something I had not heard of before!) is just a baby shower by another name. A gift is expected.
I've attended gender reveal parties and baby showers. They've been different parties. The gender reveals have been family and close friends getting together for bbq's and cutting the cake to reveal the color inside. No gifts were brought or expected. I've also attended baby showers where gifts were not requested. The friends just wanted to celebrate their friend having a baby.
Of course not. I am specifically referring to people with gigantic "Wish Lists" and registries at every place on the planet that pratically hound invitees about what they are getting. I've even seen people chastise others on the list about what they plan to get so other guests know what not to buy. That's not wanting to have fun and hang out with friends. It's exhortion.
Time for better friends! I don't attend parties like that even for family. I'm not all about celebrating greed. And I tend to give hand made gifts - quilts, bedding, scrapbooks, memory boxes, aprons, etc. The greedy ones want none of those things so I don't bother. We're both happier that way.
My birthday is a national holiday and also sometimes falls during my winter holiday of choice. I can't even get free birthday meals on my birthday because of special menus for the holiday (rude)! So I always celebrate my half birthday with friends because I'm too introverted to enjoy a night out on my actual birthday.
But having two full-fledged birthday parties is a little crazy. I've never heard of it, though now a few coworkers throw half-birthday parties for their holiday-birthday kids!
I've attended gender reveal parties and baby showers. They've been different parties. The gender reveals have been family and close friends getting together for bbq's and cutting the cake to reveal the color inside. No gifts were brought or expected. I've also attended baby showers where gifts were not requested. The friends just wanted to celebrate their friend having a baby.
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I think gifts for baby showers are very appropriate, especially for the first child.
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I think gifts for baby showers are very appropriate, especially for the first child.
I don't do baby shower gifts after the first child UNLESS it's a child of a different sex and then you're getting something like onesies or blankets OR it's been at least 10 years between kids. I know people who have baby showers for every kid. Sorry, but you shouldn't demand everyone you know to support your herd each time you have a kid. I have some family like that. And mysteriously I am ALWAYS busy when those showers are held. I'm curing malaria at McDonald's or fishing in the Suez Canal....
My friends on the other hand don't want showers for every kid. They usually do a shower (after kid #1) - and it's really not a shower - it's more like a last girls night out before Junior pops out. We don't go drinking or anything, but for the mom to be (mom to be again), her life is going to be baby baby baby for 24 hours a day so we do something fun like a big dinner, BBQ, movie night, pottery night etc. Hey we're dorky, but we have fun....family on the other hand....oy vey!
I think it would be fine for a kid with a summer birthday who wants to be able to invite school friends. That is providing they have 1 party, not 2.
Otherwise, no. I do agree the spoiling is getting a bit ridiculous.
I don't see a problem with two parties for the same kid for a different group of friends and/or family. For example, I know parents that give their child a birthday just for family members to attend and a "half birthday" party just for friends to accomodate the "off season" if it falls that way. I would never do it, but I've seen others do it. Either people can come to my kids' party or they can't. They'll survive.
Many moons ago I worked with a woman who was very popular. She grew up in foster homes and didn't have any family at all. She had a bunch of friends though. Her birthday was like a national holiday. She would easily have some kind of gathering, dinner, party every day for two weeks. I was her friend too and it had nothing to do with jealousy. I had just never seen an adult have more than one birthday party within the same year before I met her.
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