Can fear and humility serve any useful role in parenting? (step-dad, teenager)
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I recognize the politically correct view is to use positive reinforcement with children. But how about when you have a teen who just wants to challenge your authority?
My teen step daughter lives in my house, under my roof, and acts like both her mother and I owe her the world.
I have to say that I'm reaching my breaking point with her, to the point where I'm tempted to teach her an old fashioned lesson in how to respect one's parents.
I'm just venting after a difficult day. I feel like I'm out of options with her.
I recognize the politically correct view is to use positive reinforcement with children. But how about when you have a teen who just wants to challenge your authority?
My teen step daughter lives in my house, under my roof, and acts like both her mother and I owe her the world.
I have to say that I'm reaching my breaking point with her, to the point where I'm tempted to teach her an old fashioned lesson in how to respect one's parents.
I'm just venting after a difficult day. I feel like I'm out of options with her.
What do you mean by "fear and humility"? And given this is your stepdaughter not your daughter - you need to remember that parenting and step-parenting are two different things.
I recognize the politically correct view is to use positive reinforcement with children. But how about when you have a teen who just wants to challenge your authority?
My teen step daughter lives in my house, under my roof, and acts like both her mother and I owe her the world.
I have to say that I'm reaching my breaking point with her, to the point where I'm tempted to teach her an old fashioned lesson in how to respect one's parents.
I'm just venting after a difficult day. I feel like I'm out of options with her.
So you are saying you want to beat her up so you can prove you are in charge? Lovely.
Even bother to talk to her and find out what she's going through and how she feels about her mother's remarriage? Naw...can't talk to a teenager....they might tell you a truth you don't want to hear. Easier just to be the 'big man' and want to beat her up.
No sympathy...and if that is your attitude, no wonder she's acting out.
I have to say that I'm reaching my breaking point with her, to the point where I'm tempted to teach her an old fashioned lesson in how to respect one's parents.
Take a walk.
No good ever came out of someone deciding to do what you are suggesting.
I'm doing my best to try and be as rationally objective as I can. It's just I feel like she doesn't respond to withdrawing privileges. She wants more freedom and independence than she is mature enough to handle. I personally feel something more old fashioned like a carefully applied spanking (not beating) would snap her back to the realization she is not an adult yet, and that parents still are ultimately in charge.
I'm doing my best to try and be as rationally objective as I can. It's just I feel like she doesn't respond to withdrawing privileges. She wants more freedom and independence than she is mature enough to handle. I personally feel something more old fashioned like a carefully applied spanking (not beating) would snap her back to the realization she is not an adult yet, and that parents still are ultimately in charge.
It appears you are aiming for fear and humiliation, not humility.
If you are for real (new poster, again, hmmm), back off step-dad. She could call the authorities on you. Mom is in charge, your job is to back up Mom.
I'm doing my best to try and be as rationally objective as I can. It's just I feel like she doesn't respond to withdrawing privileges. She wants more freedom and independence than she is mature enough to handle. I personally feel something more old fashioned like a carefully applied spanking (not beating) would snap her back to the realization she is not an adult yet, and that parents still are ultimately in charge.
Spanking a teen? Are you serious? Why? What possible lesson would you be teaching her that you could not teach in a more rational way?
Don't even consider trying to spank a teen-age girl. You risk being accused of all sorts of stuff.
How does your wife treat her?
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