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Old 05-18-2014, 11:18 AM
 
Location: Jacksonville, FL
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For me personally, I play the guitar fairly well. However, when my daughter wanted to pick it up I showed her the basics and then sent her to my brother for more advanced lessons. Same with martial arts, I taught the basics and then set her up with a qualified instructor, even though I used to teach children's Tae Kwon Do. My job is to teach my children to be productive, well adjusted adults. Part of that is teaching them to interact with other people, and having outsiders teach them the specifics of their hobbies is a great way to force the interaction that is needed in order to do that. Also, we all have a tendency to expect our children to be good at the things we are good at. If and when they don't meet those expectectations, an outsider is going to be able to deal with the frustration better than I am.
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Old 05-18-2014, 11:24 AM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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For me personally, I play the guitar fairly well. However, when my daughter wanted to pick it up I showed her the basics and then sent her to my brother for more advanced lessons. Same with martial arts, I taught the basics and then set her up with a qualified instructor, even though I used to teach children's Tae Kwon Do. My job is to teach my children to be productive, well adjusted adults. Part of that is teaching them to interact with other people, and having outsiders teach them the specifics of their hobbies is a great way to force the interaction that is needed in order to do that. Also, we all have a tendency to expect our children to be good at the things we are good at. If and when they don't meet those expectectations, an outsider is going to be able to deal with the frustration better than I am.
beautifully said.

My step daughter homeschooled her daughter from day one. She taught her to sing and play the piano but when she realized the child had special talent she and her husband made some tremendous sacrifices to make sure the child got all the specialized training she needed. Last week she graduated top of her class at a major university just barely reaching her 17th birthday. She will be continuing with a master program at the same university but first she is being taught how to drive!
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Old 05-18-2014, 01:18 PM
 
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I think the biggest reason is that often a child will be more obedient, and listen to someone other than their parent more when it comes down to stuff like this. Sometimes, children learn things better from other people.

^^This.

Additionally, even though I can play, it doesn't make me a good teacher. Finding an experienced teacher who has been teaching for quite a few years is much more effective. Heck, even I learn stuff from the piano teacher sitting in on their lessons. Learning to play is a bit different from how I learned many years ago---for example teaching intervals versus rote note memorization was a pretty niffy thing. I've used some of her techniques and it has made me a more effective sight reader. Good stuff.

This is not to say that I don't help them during practice if they are stuck. I've also have taken great joy in playing duets with them throughout the years. Teaching them though.....better left to a professional. In fact their old piano teacher said that she wouldn't think of teaching her own kids. She tried it for a year with her older daughter and it didn't go over too well. She had a piano teacher peer of hers teach her kids and vice versa.
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Old 05-18-2014, 03:51 PM
 
Location: Oak Cliff! That's my hood!
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Just because you know it doesn't mean that you can teach it. I was my nephew's tennis coach just long enough for everybody to realize that he needed a real coach. They were willing to pay me, and I would've cost them a fraction of what a coach would have charged, but after two practices, everyone involved realized that it was a terrible idea.
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