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I find it interesting that some people confuse spanking with beating. Those are two very different things. But whenever someone is against spanking, they inevitably equate it with beating.
Beating a child is not only unconscionable but useless. But it's not the same thing as spanking.
The other confusion that inevitably occurs in these discussions is that some people seem to think that all children are identical, like little robots that come out of the factory just alike and you can maintain them all identically. Again, a fallacy - every child is different, and disciplines that work well with one child will not work well with every child. One example is from our own family. Our son, born an easy-going sort, at two, would throw the occasional tantrum at not getting his way over something. Our response was not to spank him, but to say, "It's clear that you need to get this out of your system. However, we have things that we need to do, as well. So you just go in your room and close the door, and when you're finished, come on out." He'd be bored and out in two minutes. His sister came along some years later, and we tried the same thing. She would then lie down with her mouth at the crack under the door and continue to scream for long periods of time - in one case, I timed her at 45 minutes. That method simply didn't work with her and we had to come up with something different. (Even as adults, he's easy-going, she's a force of nature who will gets things done no matter what.)
Not to mention that parents are just as different one from another.
These discussions are always looking for the easy, one-size-fits-all answer (there isn't one) and/or promoting an agenda which depends more on emotion than on fact.
lkb0714, thanks for pointing out that the link to the actual study is in that article. Somehow I missed it; I will go back and read it.
I've seen kids, who are never spanked, become unruly out-of-control BRATS! They don't follow rules... When they grow up, they speed/tailgate in their car or text while driving (break rules which are there for their own protection), then wind up at the mortuary.
Some kids need a good spanking. It is for their own good they learn to follow rules.
How does one look at a kid and determine if they are spanked or not? And, then you follow them through their lives? You drive with them? How many of these people do you actually know?
Any form of hitting a child is abuse...why some dont see this is beyond me.... all this does is show how much the parent is out of control and harming a child..
I find it interesting that some people confuse spanking with beating..
No one is confused except those that think there is a difference. Tell me. .. how exactly do you spank a child without breathing them?
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