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Old 07-23-2014, 02:56 PM
 
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If a teacher calls my home to speak to a middle school son or daughter of mine, then I first would want to know what is going on. No different with a text message from a teacher. That text from the teacher should come to me as a parent and I will pass along the information.
So you don't even want school staff to talk to your student...it all has to come through you?
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Old 07-23-2014, 03:01 PM
 
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So you don't even want school staff to talk to your student...it all has to come through you?
If the teacher's contact (text, call) to a middle school aged son or daughter of mine is so important that it is coming outside of school hours, then I need to be in the loop.
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Old 07-23-2014, 03:04 PM
 
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If a teacher calls my home to speak to a middle school son or daughter of mine, then I first would want to know what is going on. No different with a text message from a teacher. That text from the teacher should come to me as a parent and I will pass along the information.
Really?

Do you have children in middle school?

By the time my daughter was in 6th grade she was pretty much in charge of gathering information about her school work and activities and making plans for fundraisers, events, performances, etc. My duties became writing checks and showing up to volunteer and for performances. I can't imagine feeling a need to intercept a message about a carwash and then passing the information on to my daughter.

Do your kids communicate with teachers via a school-based website of any kind? If so, do you monitor that? Again, starting in 6th grade, assignments were posted online as well as at school and kids can ask questions via email. Would you monitor that as well if your kids had a question about an assignment?
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Old 07-23-2014, 03:04 PM
 
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No reason for a teacher to want "to talk" to a middle school aged son or daughter of mine outside of school. If the contact (text, call) is so important that it is coming outside of school hours, then I need to be in the loop.
It's one thing to know what is going on...but it's quite another to not allow a teacher to talk to their student.

Also, again I ask, what is your view of the use of school message boards for assignments and communication?
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Old 07-23-2014, 03:07 PM
 
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We're not talking about teachers sending personal, chatty emails to individual students.

A group text or email is the same thing as sending home a flyer with information, except that it saves the teacher a bunch of time and saves the school (taxpayers) money. I just cannot understand your objection to that.
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Old 07-23-2014, 03:12 PM
 
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We're not talking about teachers sending personal, chatty emails to individual students.

A group text or email is the same thing as sending home a flyer with information, except that it saves the teacher a bunch of time and saves the school (taxpayers) money. I just cannot understand your objection to that.
Not to mention with budget cutbacks many schools have rations for paper unless the teacher or students bring in more.

Also with using things like text, email, pages and boards, there is a record of the communication. A student can't say "You never told me that!"
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Old 07-23-2014, 03:13 PM
 
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It's one thing to know what is going on...but it's quite another to not allow a teacher to talk to their student.
First the teacher would need to tell me what was going on in order "to talk" to a 12-14 year old child of mine at home.
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Old 07-23-2014, 03:14 PM
 
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First the teacher would need to tell me what was going on in order "to talk" to a 12-14 year old child of mine at home.
Why can't your child tell you what's going on?
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Old 07-23-2014, 03:16 PM
 
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For the record, I've never had a teacher call the house to talk to my daughter. If that happened, I'd want to know what was going on, too.

But there is a fair amount of communication that goes on via the school website, FB group sites and group texts and I've never had a problem with it.
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Old 07-23-2014, 03:18 PM
 
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For the record, I've never had a teacher call the house to talk to my daughter. If that happened, I'd want to know what was going on, too.

But there is a fair amount of communication that goes on via the school website, FB group sites and group texts and I've never had a problem with it.
I've had teachers call for things like drama/dance rehearsals, or coaches when practices change. I can't imagine thinking every-time a teacher contacted my child that they were up to no good.

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