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Old 07-26-2014, 05:18 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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Okay, so did they end up being grounded for two weeks?

If your wife saying "you're teenagers, everyone does this" was enough to cause you to rescind your punishment, you don't have a parenting problem, you have a backbone problem. If the punishment stood, and you are just feeling grouchy that your wife was attempting to soften the delivery of the punishment, you have an insecurity problem. It's okay to play good cop/bad cop sometimes.

Grounding a kid for two weeks for sneaking beer is a perfectly acceptable punishment.

Sit your wife down and discuss this with her BEFORE the next incident. Explain to her how it feels when you are undermined and ask her for some strategies for deciding on and delivering punishments.

And BTW, you need to BECOME one of those 'no drinking until you're 21' type parents.
yes, they stayed grounded, still felt pretty undermined by her.

 
Old 07-26-2014, 05:24 PM
 
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Being a no drinking until your 21 parent is crazy especially if they are going to college LOL.
 
Old 07-26-2014, 05:31 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Being a no drinking until your 21 parent is crazy especially if they are going to college LOL.
One of my neighbors LOL'd her way to jail.

Police: Brentwood mom let 25 teens drink alcohol
 
Old 07-26-2014, 05:34 PM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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so how about no drinking while you are living under my roof and I'm paying the bills. And that does not mean no drinking while actually IN my house but it means as long as you are a dependant I make the rules and you follow them.
 
Old 07-26-2014, 05:41 PM
 
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One of my neighbors LOL'd her way to jail.

Police: Brentwood mom let 25 teens drink alcohol
ya theres a huge difference between being reasonable and letting 25 kids drink in your house.
 
Old 07-26-2014, 05:58 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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ya theres a huge difference between being reasonable and letting 25 kids drink in your house.
Uh huh, so where IS the line?

I figured the law is reasonable. Apparently not?
 
Old 07-26-2014, 06:45 PM
 
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Uh huh, so where IS the line?

I figured the law is reasonable. Apparently not?
its definitely not. I'm sure your rules are really gonna stop a 17 year old from drinking
 
Old 07-26-2014, 06:46 PM
 
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much rather be realistic
 
Old 07-26-2014, 06:55 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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much rather be realistic
Remind me how many kids you have?
 
Old 07-26-2014, 07:13 PM
 
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Remind me how many kids you have?
LOL. You don't have to be a parent to understand how teenagers work. Unlike you I wasn't a teenager that long ago. A 17 year old who wants to drink is going to find a way to drink. All you can do is make sure they are responsible.
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