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Old 07-28-2014, 03:20 AM
 
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My 17 year old will turn 18 in Jan. She has graduated high school, still living at home. She is attractive and is very much into fitness, hoping to become a fitness instructor. She has her own blog with something like 16,000 followers on her work-out site. This is a site where others can post pics too so there are alot of pics of girls around her age with leg shots, ab shots, etc. Some of the girls you can see part of their rear-ends and some of the pics could be considered sexy....some of the girls have poses in their bikini. I have read the comments and it all in reference to work outs. This is an open blog so anyone can see it.

Daughters two older sisters, ages 33 and 28, saw daughter's blog and have their concerns. They felt the pics of their sister were inappropriate. They were concerned that men with not so good of intentions could see these pics, also felt that their sister was trying to attract attention from males with the pics and were concerned that she felt she had to show her body to get approval. I personally did not see it this way at all and told my daughters I really felt there was not reason for concern.

I was then sent links about how to raise a teenager and told by my older daughters how dangerous it is for my youngest to have these pics on the Internet. Have you seen pics where someone has been heavy and they do the before and after-shot pics and sometimes the girl might be in a bra top and maybe a pair of pj shorts or something small as a bottom? This is the type of pics my daughter has on her blog. I asked her if she was trying to attract male attention or f she felt there was any need for approval thru her body and she told me that it was not the case at all. She is very serious about her work outs. There is not one reference to anything "sexy" on her blog. No busty shots of her, no thing booty shots, she does even have a shot of her in a bikini like some of the other girls.

So I am asking opinions from other parents on this one.
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Old 07-28-2014, 04:08 AM
 
Location: Western Washington
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For one thing, congratulations on raising such loving, caring children! Way to go! Your youngest started an exercise blog? Good for HER! Holy cow, it's nice to hear about such good kids. This is a tough dilemna, because everyone's right!

I think that letting her know of the possible creepers, and making sure that she doesn't allow "over sharing" of body parts on her site, should be adequate. Although her older siblings are trying to protect her, they also have to be careful not to curb her natural gifts and passions. She is doing some good work out there and it sounds like she's very fulfilled doing what she's doing. It would be sad to see her discouraged from continuing to do so.
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Old 07-28-2014, 08:39 AM
 
Location: Bloomington IN
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Just remember that the internet lasts forever. I understand that she is using the pictures to show the value of her workouts, and she has chosen, at least for now, to make the human body her career. That can change. I think I would discourage the bikini shots. 10 or 20 years from now that may not be her career and the photos maybe cause embarrassment.
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Old 07-28-2014, 08:49 AM
 
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as long as her blog stay as you described I have no problems.
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Old 07-28-2014, 09:54 AM
 
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You haven't described anything inappropriate. It sounds like her sisters are jealous of her.
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Old 07-28-2014, 10:00 AM
 
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My 17 year old will turn 18 in Jan. She has graduated high school, still living at home. She is attractive and is very much into fitness, hoping to become a fitness instructor. She has her own blog with something like 16,000 followers on her work-out site. This is a site where others can post pics too so there are alot of pics of girls around her age with leg shots, ab shots, etc. Some of the girls you can see part of their rear-ends and some of the pics could be considered sexy....some of the girls have poses in their bikini. I have read the comments and it all in reference to work outs. This is an open blog so anyone can see it.

Daughters two older sisters, ages 33 and 28, saw daughter's blog and have their concerns. They felt the pics of their sister were inappropriate. They were concerned that men with not so good of intentions could see these pics, also felt that their sister was trying to attract attention from males with the pics and were concerned that she felt she had to show her body to get approval. I personally did not see it this way at all and told my daughters I really felt there was not reason for concern.

I was then sent links about how to raise a teenager and told by my older daughters how dangerous it is for my youngest to have these pics on the Internet. Have you seen pics where someone has been heavy and they do the before and after-shot pics and sometimes the girl might be in a bra top and maybe a pair of pj shorts or something small as a bottom? This is the type of pics my daughter has on her blog. I asked her if she was trying to attract male attention or f she felt there was any need for approval thru her body and she told me that it was not the case at all. She is very serious about her work outs. There is not one reference to anything "sexy" on her blog. No busty shots of her, no thing booty shots, she does even have a shot of her in a bikini like some of the other girls.

So I am asking opinions from other parents on this one.
I really don't see the problem with that. Yeah, there are creepers online...guess what? There are creepers in real life...always have been always will be.

Your bigger concerns should be making sure she knows how to handle people like that (cause they aren't all men) and doing what she can to fullfull her goals of being a fitness instructor (most good ones have more than a high school diploma, with classes in sport physiology, english (fitness writing is a huge business), business management etc etc) and not just working out and having a blog - no matter how popular it is.

If she's meeting those benchmarks and there are no other issues....I'd tell the sisters to go jump in the lake. Why would you listen to your older children over being a parent anyway?
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Old 07-31-2014, 01:40 AM
 
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For one thing, congratulations on raising such loving, caring children! Way to go! Your youngest started an exercise blog? Good for HER! Holy cow, it's nice to hear about such good kids. This is a tough dilemna, because everyone's right!

I think that letting her know of the possible creepers, and making sure that she doesn't allow "over sharing" of body parts on her site, should be adequate. Although her older siblings are trying to protect her, they also have to be careful not to curb her natural gifts and passions. She is doing some good work out there and it sounds like she's very fulfilled doing what she's doing. It would be sad to see her discouraged from continuing to do so.

^ I agree w this poster. While i most def see your concern, she is out of HS and almost 18. Sexy picts are almost the new normal on-line nowadays (facebook, instagram, etc) from about 15+. (I certainly dressed provocatively back in the day, there was just not often a camera around!) Remeber there is a difference between sexy, skimpy, and naked.

Also, i do recommend having a talk w her and asking her what she feels they add to the site. The more communication the better!
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