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Old 12-21-2007, 05:21 PM
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Oh my gosh....that poor little kid! I hope somebody gets him some help, and soon!!!
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Old 12-25-2007, 06:49 PM
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I hate to say it but my 11 year old nephew is a real nerd. He had NO Friends at all and really does not talk to anyone other than his teachers. He used to be a friendly little boy but liked to talk about things that were quite strange and really had no interest to kids his age. He became an outsider at age 7 and never really recovered. His IQ is at the genius level but his memory is poor so he gets only C's in school. He is terrible in sports which makes him even more of an outcast because that is what gives kids prestige at his school.

His parents send him to all kinds of organized activities but no one has anything to do with him. So he participates in silence. I tell my sister she needs to send him to get professional help but she disagrees and says no one can learn how to make friends or have social skills, popularity is just something you have or not.

So, do you think professional help can make the boy have friends?
Something is seriously up if he has an amazingly high IQ but only gets C's. You or his parents or whatever need to *TALK TO HIM* and see what is up.

I really can't chaulk this up to "just nerdy, a loner" if he is getting C's. I could see if he was getting straight A's and actively trying to push himself further academically beyond what he is asked of.

What does *he* say? How does he feel? Does he want to be more social? What does he want? Is he enjoying life? What does he feel his problems are, if any? What does he like and dislike about school? Could he have social anxiety, or a type of autistic symptoms maybe? Or something different?

That memory issue sounds bogus but I don't really know what I'm talking about. Even dumb people can have good memories. Just sounds too odd if he has a genius IQ for his memory to be *that* much of a problem. Especially since memory has an effect on IQ.
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Old 12-26-2007, 06:10 PM
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Your nephew needs professional help. I seen it with my daughter, she is pretty much a loner and feel the need to isolate herself always. She's very bright and over analyzes everything and people. Recently, she tried to commit suicide by swallowing pills. The only signs that she communicated with us, was that she was lonely and wanted to fit in with school and groups. Her doctor had given us a list of therapists two days before she tried suicide. Seek help for your nephew and it may require medication to help him face his social anxiety. It's not normal.
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