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Old 08-21-2014, 09:09 AM
 
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This sounds like a very tough situation. I had step kids and their mom was always trying to mess things up. We got trapped up in it, getting mad, fighting her, etc. Then one day it hit me, we have to be the drama free zone. The ex does something mean, we ignore it. She crosses boundaries, we calmly reinforce them and move on. It was hard to do! People like that know your buttons and are shameless. I went to my room many times to cool off.

It took some time, the boys believed a lot of what she said. But over time they reallly saw the difference and now as adults, we are really close. They see through their mom now.

Best of luck! Its a tough situation to be in.
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Old 08-21-2014, 01:58 PM
 
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Thanks eyeye.... it helps to hear someone already walked this path to know that it WILL get better.... I just have to stop falling into this dysfunctional pattern that we maintained during our marriage.... I'm divorced now... I want positive experiences, and wish the best for all parties concerned.

Can't we all just get along? :-)
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Old 08-21-2014, 04:39 PM
 
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The most amicable divorces are when the parents recognize their decision to divorce included no longer trying to control each other.
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Old 08-22-2014, 07:54 PM
 
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Thanks eyeye.... it helps to hear someone already walked this path to know that it WILL get better.... I just have to stop falling into this dysfunctional pattern that we maintained during our marriage.... I'm divorced now... I want positive experiences, and wish the best for all parties concerned.

Can't we all just get along? :-)
Getting along starts with you, don't you think? If you set a very good example your daughter and ex might decide to follow it, but it might take awhile to change old habits.
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