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Old 08-11-2014, 03:25 PM
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I have a friend with two children. Both are over 18. My friends ex was court ordered to pay child support after their divorce but only paid for a year or two. (Should have paid for 10-11 years)

The ex's employer has recently been served with orders to garnish wages. The ex has asked my friend to agree to terminate child support since the kids are past child support age.

I said 'No way!'. My friend struggled for many years raising the kids as a single parent. I suggested that the payments be put in savings for the kids or retirement for my friend.

Just seems crazy to me to waive the support that should have been paid all those years. Any thoughts?
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Old 08-11-2014, 03:32 PM
 
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Absolutely, as soon as the previous debt has been satisfied. Before? No way.
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Old 08-11-2014, 04:30 PM
 
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I have a friend with two children. Both are over 18. My friends ex was court ordered to pay child support after their divorce but only paid for a year or two. (Should have paid for 10-11 years)

The ex's employer has recently been served with orders to garnish wages. The ex has asked my friend to agree to terminate child support since the kids are past child support age.

I said 'No way!'. My friend struggled for many years raising the kids as a single parent. I suggested that the payments be put in savings for the kids or retirement for my friend.

Just seems crazy to me to waive the support that should have been paid all those years. Any thoughts?
She is crazy if she does....and it doesn't have to go to the kids.....the father was a dead beat...time doesn't get him off the hook.
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Old 08-11-2014, 04:35 PM
 
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Terminate future support (maybe for college? Your post is unclear) or waive past support due?

No way in hell I'd waive past support due without very good cause.
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Old 08-11-2014, 06:38 PM
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Terminate future support (maybe for college? Your post is unclear) or waive past support due?

No way in hell I'd waive past support due without very good cause.
Sorry Maciesmom. I should have been more clear. The ex wants her to waive all past due child support (support that was due during the years he did not pay).
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Old 08-11-2014, 06:45 PM
 
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He should pay.
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Old 08-11-2014, 06:45 PM
 
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There are more important things in life than money. I can understand wanting to put him behind her and get on with her life.
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Old 08-11-2014, 07:02 PM
 
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Sorry Maciesmom. I should have been more clear. The ex wants her to waive all past due child support (support that was due during the years he did not pay).
Nope. It is owed. It is in arrears. Maybe Mom can pay off some debt she incurred or use it to help with college expenses for her kids.

In any case, it is owed and a person shouldn't get a pass for being an asshat for more than a decade and not paying when the mom had to scrape around to make ends meet.
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Old 08-11-2014, 07:03 PM
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There are more important things in life than money. I can understand wanting to put him behind her and get on with her life.
She has put him behind her - she even remarried.

I don't think that excuses him from paying child support for his kids. She struggled for many years raising the kids without support from him. Why shouldn't she get the money that is due?
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Old 08-11-2014, 07:05 PM
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Nope. It is owed. It is in arrears. Maybe Mom can pay off some debt she incurred or use it to help with college expenses for her kids.

In any case, it is owed and a person shouldn't get a pass for being an asshat for more than a decade and not paying when the mom had to scrape around to make ends meet.
I agree Anifani! That is exactly what I told her. I hope she refuses to agree to terminate support.
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