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Old 08-14-2014, 10:29 AM
 
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You should be ashamed of yourself!

It's obvious you told this doctor (who isn't even a pediatrician!) that your daughter is prone to lying. Of course, why would he #1 want to see a four-year-old child when he's a family doctor, and #2 even believe this child because Mom says she's a liar? So yeah, he says, just take her to a therapist, because of course, all liars should go to therapists, even when they say they've been penetrated in the vagina and the anus.

OP, you are the epitome of why victims of rape and molestation are terrified to come forward. I feel really bad for this poor little girl.
And you are the epitome of why parents have real concerns about going to anybody at all WRT genital issues.

All you need to do is (inadvertently) go to someone who sees molestation around every corner and suddenly your kid is in a foster home her dad is in jail, and the original concern is lost in the hysteria.

lkb is right, kids regularly explore their genitals, and in a way that can make parents blush. It's a fine line between expressing the appropriate setting for that to them and making them feel like they're doing something shameful.

It's hard to even find advice anywhere because as soon as you even google it you're potentially on some kind of predator list, and your (and especially your child's) life can be RUINED because of it in the most heinous of ways.

If the OP had any doubts at all she would go the appropriate route because the well being of the child is paramount. But there are instances where, if you feel that your child is prone to exaggeration and it's all perfectly innocent, that it's best to be very cautious in how you proceed, lest you unleash unintended consequences of profoundly disastrous proportions, that will ultimately hurt the child more than the well intended intervention.
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Old 08-14-2014, 10:29 AM
 
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It doesn't matter whether some GPs see children; the fact is this doctor does not know this child.
Yes he does. He's her regular doctor she sees every year for checkups and illnesses.
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Old 08-14-2014, 10:36 AM
 
Location: Hillsborough
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You should be ashamed of yourself!

It's obvious you told this doctor (who isn't even a pediatrician!) that your daughter is prone to lying. Of course, why would he #1 want to see a four-year-old child when he's a family doctor, and #2 even believe this child because Mom says she's a liar? So yeah, he says, just take her to a therapist, because of course, all liars should go to therapists, even when they say they've been penetrated in the vagina and the anus.

OP, you are the epitome of why victims of rape and molestation are terrified to come forward. I feel really bad for this poor little girl.
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It doesn't matter whether some GPs see children; the fact is this doctor does not know this child.
Wut? This doctor does know her. He is her primary care doctor and has been for years. He sees many children. We heard about him because he had the most recommendations from a local parenting group listserve. My next door neighbor takes her kids and whole family there too. He has toys in the waiting room as well as in every exam room. He definitely sees plenty of kids, he just doesn't see exclusively kids - hence "family doctor" and not pediatrician. My husband and I and both of our kids have been seeing him for a few years.

The doctor is going to see her today and examine her, and then we will discuss whether she should see a therapist. The therapist would be a specialist to discuss any sexual molestation with her if we felt there was reason for her to talk about it and to try to get a better picture of what happened. Not to talk about lying. I don't know where you got that idea.
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Old 08-14-2014, 10:41 AM
 
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Wut? This doctor does know her. He is her primary care doctor and has been for years. He sees many children. We heard about him because he had the most recommendations from a local parenting group listserve. My next door neighbor takes her kids and whole family there too. He has toys in the waiting room as well as in every exam room. He definitely sees plenty of kids, he just doesn't see exclusively kids - hence "family doctor" and not pediatrician. My husband and I and both of our kids have been seeing him for a few years.

The doctor is going to see her today and examine her, and then we will discuss whether she should see a therapist. The therapist would be a specialist to discuss any sexual molestation with her if we felt there was reason for her to talk about it and to try to get a better picture of what happened. Not to talk about lying. I don't know where you got that idea.
I apologize then. I thought you had said your child goes to a pediatrician, and that she had not seen your family doctor.
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Old 08-14-2014, 10:49 AM
 
Location: Hillsborough
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I apologize then. I thought you had said your child goes to a pediatrician, and that she had not seen your family doctor.
No, some people were just saying that they thought I should take her to a pediatrician instead of our family doctor.
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Old 08-14-2014, 10:58 AM
 
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No, some people were just saying that they thought I should take her to a pediatrician instead of our family doctor.
Gotcha. And look, for the record, I'm sorry I was being so harsh. I was molested as a child, and I told my parents, and they did nothing about it. So this obviously struck a nerve with me.
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Old 08-14-2014, 11:05 AM
 
Location: Hillsborough
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Gotcha. And look, for the record, I'm sorry I was being so harsh. I was molested as a child, and I told my parents, and they did nothing about it. So this obviously struck a nerve with me.
Thanks. I can appreciate that.
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Old 08-14-2014, 11:23 AM
 
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Yes he does. He's her regular doctor she sees every year for checkups and illnesses.
I'm confused ... Are you the OP with another name? You seem to be posting quite a bit on this thread with information not given in the thread.
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Old 08-14-2014, 11:28 AM
 
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Facts.....
Right he touched her genitals. In the middle of the classroom btw.
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Old 08-14-2014, 11:33 AM
 
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OP I hope you are willing to share the outcome of this with us as a possible resource for other parents with concerns but given the personal attacks you have suffered on this thread I completely understand if you are not comfortable or willing to do that.

I wish you and your family the best of luck.
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