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Old 08-18-2014, 08:48 PM
 
Location: Detroit,MI
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Where's mom now? Does she visit? Send cards? Talk on the phone? Pay support? What about Maternal realitives? Any family connections to Mom?

Nope no communication, no cards, nothing.
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Old 08-18-2014, 09:05 PM
 
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Do you know where she is? Her family?
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Old 08-18-2014, 10:16 PM
 
Location: Detroit,MI
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Do you know where she is? Her family?
No idea where she is, haven't seen or talked to her in 14 years
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Old 08-18-2014, 10:49 PM
 
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Not " concern" really, I'm just puzzled as to why she does all of this.
Ask her?
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Old 08-19-2014, 08:05 AM
 
Location: Johns Creek, GA
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Might be too late, but I would try sending her away for a few days at a time. Maybe on a mission trip or to stay with relatives or something. Maybe even a sports camp. It doesn't seem like she will grow the wings that you want for her by choice.

The idea is to give her some exposure to life without seeing dad every day. She is going to need the tools to handle life's small crises without guidance.
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Old 08-19-2014, 10:07 AM
 
Location: Detroit,MI
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Might be too late, but I would try sending her away for a few days at a time. Maybe on a mission trip or to stay with relatives or something. Maybe even a sports camp. It doesn't seem like she will grow the wings that you want for her by choice.

The idea is to give her some exposure to life without seeing dad every day. She is going to need the tools to handle life's small crises without guidance.
I could send her, if she's up for it, to my brother's place in Chicago. As far as sports camps though, she's always doing those competitions and camps, but good call on the relatives thing

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Old 08-19-2014, 11:26 AM
 
Location: Detroit,MI
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I guess I shouldn't be surprised that she's Ms. Clean and Organized now. She's one of the very few kids I've ever heard of to pick up her toys and make her bed without being asked. I'd make breakfast or whatever and she always knew where to put the stuff back, usually I just threw it in the cabinet, but she always knew, it irritated her if it wasn't in its exact spot. She liked to ask silly questions like " Is my hair blonde? Are my eyes blue?
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Old 08-20-2014, 09:44 AM
 
Location: Detroit,MI
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Talked last night about her spending a few days in Chicago. She wasn't keen on the idea( it was cool with him if it was cool with her) I encouraged her to go until I got a response of " I'm 18 now, I'll make the decision". It's been years since she's snapped at me.
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Old 08-20-2014, 02:42 PM
 
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Sounds like she is the parent in this relationship. Also a little OCD, maybe?

Sorry may be a little late to effect change with her now. You should probably look at changing your own behavior and let her make what changes she wishes within herself. maybe starting with going to college where she stays in the dorm, with a roommate, during the week anyway.
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Old 08-20-2014, 03:32 PM
 
Location: Detroit,MI
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may just be OCD. I'm still shocked she snapped at me like that
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