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Old 08-22-2014, 11:58 AM
 
Location: North America
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I'm 34, my daughter just turned 18. Yes, that math is correct, I became a father at 16. My ex wife( technically we're not divorced but we consider each other exes) and I were childhood friends who dated through high school. My wife is gone now, very messy situation, she did what she felt was best for her. So now it's just my daughter and I. Ever since she was around 14, she's had this incessant need to take care of me and I guess watch out for me. I'm not mad or annoyed, I think it's sweet. I've told her I'm a grown man who can do things for himself.

Every morning, before I wake up, she gets up and makes breakfast, I never asked her too, but she does anyway. Average day for her during the school year is: Get up, cook breakfast, go to school, go to work, come home, homework, cook dinner, chill, bed. Working was her idea, she wanted to " pitch in". I offer to cook, but she always tells me, she likes her food edible( I'm not that bad at cooking haha). She cleans the house about 50% of the time because " dirtiness annoys her".

Why does she do all this? Is it just the thought process of " Mom's gone, I need to step up to the plate."

I "fight" her on everything as in " You don't need to do that, I can..." but her response is " but I want too"

She feels a need to step in and become the lady of the house. Please make sure she doesn't make it her life's work. Your daughter needs to become her own person, not your caregiver. Clean up after yourself if you don't want her to clean the house. Be assertive and cook dinner, and breakfast.

It sounds as if you like things as they are.

Please, for her sake, give her the encouragement not to devote her life in caring for you. She's your daughter, treat her as such.
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Old 08-22-2014, 01:46 PM
 
Location: Detroit,MI
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I'm hesitant to lecture or punish her. I've only " punished" her once when she was 5 and it was just a timeout and no dessert because she refused to eat 4 carrot sticks
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Old 08-22-2014, 03:37 PM
 
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I'm hesitant to lecture or punish her. I've only " punished" her once when she was 5 and it was just a timeout and no dessert because she refused to eat 4 carrot sticks
Why would you punish her or lecture her? Everyone is entitled to a crappy day. Tell her you're there if she needs you but you're going to give her some space and then do so.

She's 18, not 8.

To be honest, I'm starting to doubt if any of this thread is true. You're daughter sounds too good to be true and you don't sound like any parent I've ever known.

Sorry, and I apologize if I'm wrong.
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Old 08-22-2014, 04:23 PM
 
Location: Detroit,MI
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Why would you punish her or lecture her? Everyone is entitled to a crappy day. Tell her you're there if she needs you but you're going to give her some space and then do so.

She's 18, not 8.

To be honest, I'm starting to doubt if any of this thread is true. You're daughter sounds too good to be true and you don't sound like any parent I've ever known.

Sorry, and I apologize if I'm wrong.
It's okay, apology accepted
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Old 08-22-2014, 04:39 PM
 
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I wouldn't call it a punishment. Its a natural consequence for being jerky to people around you that they will not want to be around you. :-)
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Old 08-22-2014, 04:47 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I hate to say it, but your posting style seems similar to that of another poster. I bet some other people who have posted in his threads know who I'm talking about. I apologize if my theory is incorrect.
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Old 08-22-2014, 06:55 PM
 
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I hate to say it, but your posting style seems similar to that of another poster. I bet some other people who have posted in his threads know who I'm talking about. I apologize if my theory is incorrect.
Why not ignore it totally if you think its something nefarious? Just ignore and move on

Perhaps he is a troll, or a guy trying his best. But...if you think its a troll, just don't give it wings
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Old 08-22-2014, 08:12 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Why not ignore it totally if you think its something nefarious? Just ignore and move on

Perhaps he is a troll, or a guy trying his best. But...if you think its a troll, just don't give it wings
Constantly adding new info/updates and keeping the thread alive is very familiar. The syntax is eerily familiar as well. The teenage parents story, including the irresponsible mother and responsible father, sound familiar too even though the details do differ.

He might be telling the truth. But it seems odd to make an OP saying "Help! My daughter does half the cleaning!" and then later add so many more serious issues (see the "I don't even know this girl" post).
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Old 08-24-2014, 12:01 PM
 
Location: Detroit,MI
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I'll just start by saying, I'm not making this up, if you chose not to believe than I really can't change your mind. Good news is she's done sulking, she just felt I wasn't giving her the respect she felt she deserved as an adult woman.
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Old 08-24-2014, 03:37 PM
 
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I'll just start by saying, I'm not making this up, if you chose not to believe than I really can't change your mind. Good news is she's done sulking, she just felt I wasn't giving her the respect she felt she deserved as an adult woman.
and you aren't giving her the respect you would as an adult woman.

is time for that little birdie to spread her wings and fly.

Good luck Dad
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