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Old 09-05-2011, 02:23 PM
 
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This is an older thread. I have no idea what your child has been accused of, so its difficult to give any advice.

Toys, computers, good grades and sexual touching? Sorry, but your post is very confusing.
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Old 09-05-2011, 04:36 PM
 
Location: Australia
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I'm sorry, but there is a DISTINCT difference in pulling up a girl's dress to see her underoos; and touching another person's genitalia. ..........
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Not at 5 or 6.
It's just curiosity.

I think at 17 it's probably still curiosity probably as a result of too much curiosity when 5 or would that be repressed curiosity when 5.

Then what about at 28?

Or ....

omg the end of the world.
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Old 09-07-2011, 08:35 AM
 
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I actually found this site while trying to find answers to my own dilema with my four year old. We had an incident about 5 months ago where he licked a little girls private parts while at a friends party. Of course being a first time parent I burst into tears and was sick for a week about what to do. We have always made it a point to edit what is on our television. We dont use fowl language, and go to church. I am not sure where the idea even came from. When I asked my son he said is just came in his head and that it gets "mixed up" some times. We talked to him about private parts and what is ok and not ok.
I thought the issue was pretty well resolved. We attended a few parties over the holidays and with a watchfull eye followed my son around, where he did a great job in remembering the rules we talked about.
Then last night while at the gym he and another little boy went into the bathroom and proceeded to lick each others privates. HELP!!!! I hear that curiosity is normal, but this seems a little extreme. What more can I do?
Whereas I do feel that curiosity is a normal healthy part of a very young childs life...The licking part makes me think he must have seen some porn somewhere.....all four of my children went through that stage where they became curious about their body parts....even at 2 years they start becoming curious...it's not a bad thing as long as you can get them through that stage without (hopefully)...allowing them the oppurtunity to involve others.
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Old 09-07-2011, 08:47 AM
 
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Hi,
I really need help. My son was caught in the bathroom at his pre-school asking another female student if he could touch her butt. When the teacher heard them she entered the room and removed them and they were both taken to the office and parents were called. Now, again this week - apparently it happened again - he was caught asking her again if he could touch her butt. Several times this week, when she raised her hand to use the bathroom - he immediately did the same.

I had a meeting with the principal this week andthey said to continue talking with him that private parts are to be kept private and not to be shown or touched by others - but my just turned five and I just don't think my talks are working on him.

I have noticed that while watching spongebob he would pause the cartoon when spongebob's butt would be one the screen. I have removed all spongebob movies from him and explained that he is no longer able to watch that cartoon because he is not a good role model for little boys.

I just don't know what the obsession is with the butt. What do I do?
My son does not see any inappropriate things in my home and I always accompany him into the restroom when we are out so I don't think anything has ever happened as far as abuse to him. But, the school is getting very frustrated as am I. Any suggestions/comments would be appreciated.
SingleMom....The principal is right...keep communicating to him that his curiosity must not involve others....he is definately not too young to understand.....I think removing all his movies is a bit extreme though(even though I hate spongebob)...and you should not lay the burden of being a good role model on one so young........I've had little fellows over visiting and they just thought it soooo funny and amazing when someones butt was shown on the tube....it's strange but true that they always guffaw at such sights.......eventually, though, the novelty wears off and new interests arise.
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Old 08-22-2012, 08:50 AM
 
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I'm currently in a situation where my 6yo daughter came home very upset and the first thing out of her mouth was "Mama a boy in my class poked my privates with his pencil!! I yelled for him to stop and he didn't. It HURT and I feel gross!!" This is NOT normal. When I was in 2nd grade there was a little boy in my class who did this thing all the time to several girls. It was never dealt with by ANYONE - not the teacher, not the principal, not the parents - mine or his - becase "boys will be boys" or "kids do silly things, its no big deal". Well guess what? At the age of 20 he raped, torchured, and MURDERED his neighbor's little girl. It was discovered that he had been molested at home since the summer BEFORE 2nd grade. Parents - don't be *******. Find out what's really going on. I am going to see that both my daughter and the boy see a counselor. If you think I'm overreacting, I don't care about your ignorant opinion - I care about MY CHILD"S wellbeing. I don't even give a crap about the other kid but he needs to stay FAR away form my little girl. And if you happen to be the pervert's parents, pray you (or your kid) never comes around me. And if you are teaching your kids that its OK for others to VIOLATE them, I feel sorry for them.
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Old 08-24-2012, 08:21 AM
 
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I applaud you on not giving up the fight for you daughter. The very basic rule you have to remember is "Who looks out best for you kid?" YOU do and no one else. If he poked her down there numerous times, enough to hurt? That's assault. Get the police involved if the school doesn't take it seriously.
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Old 08-24-2012, 10:32 AM
 
Location: Michigan
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If you think I'm overreacting, I don't care about your ignorant opinion - I care about MY CHILD"S wellbeing.
Then perhaps you ought to be seeing one of those people who charge $150 an hour. Just a suggestion
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Old 09-19-2012, 07:08 PM
 
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You people are insane and have no idea what reprocessions are. Either you are insensitiive heartless selfish parents or you have had nothing in your life, thank god, traumatized you. I have been molested from ages 4 until 11, had cancer twice, in physical and emotionally abusive relationship and now have a special needs child. I am 43 and work in an elemtary school with kids all day. I have been through years of therapy for all of the above and am good/happy now and my son is in first grade, we recently discovered he has been violated by another student (more than 1) at school. He is 7- this is now 'play, curiousity, you show me urs I will show u mine' when you chalk it up to that you are giving up on ur child, you are the failure, you are in denilal and you are showing you child you don't believe them and you don't care to find out or teach. To me that's lazy. You children need and rely on us, that's what we are here for to protect. Not to give up and blow off. When they grow up, they may do this or worse. And you know what, you taught that, you should be proud right.
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Old 09-20-2012, 04:30 AM
 
Location: Michigan
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You people are insane and have no idea what reprocessions are. Either you are insensitiive heartless selfish parents or you have had nothing in your life, thank god, traumatized you. I have been molested from ages 4 until 11, had cancer twice, in physical and emotionally abusive relationship and now have a special needs child. I am 43 and work in an elemtary school with kids all day. I have been through years of therapy for all of the above and am good/happy now and my son is in first grade, we recently discovered he has been violated by another student (more than 1) at school. He is 7- this is now 'play, curiousity, you show me urs I will show u mine' when you chalk it up to that you are giving up on ur child, you are the failure, you are in denilal and you are showing you child you don't believe them and you don't care to find out or teach. To me that's lazy. You children need and rely on us, that's what we are here for to protect. Not to give up and blow off. When they grow up, they may do this or worse. And you know what, you taught that, you should be proud right.
Nothing you said bears a remote resemblance to anything in the OP. You've obviously had a hard life, but attitudes such as yours have made a lot of childrens' lives harder than they had to be. See Ethical Treatment for All Youth for illustrative examples.
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