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Old 08-25-2014, 08:22 AM
 
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It seems we all agree that success is based on a combination of talent, hard work, luck, and initiative. What we don't agree on is how important each of those factors is. No use in debating it any further, in my opinion, since none of us are going to change each other's minds.
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Old 08-27-2014, 09:02 PM
 
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I think some times you have to be the tiger, and some times the beta......the trick is knowing when and how to balance!
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Old 08-28-2014, 09:38 PM
 
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I think some times you have to be the tiger, and some times the beta......the trick is knowing when and how to balance!
I definitely agree that finding the right balance is important in all areas of life. But to me, the term "tiger" in this context implies a lack of balance.
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Old 08-28-2014, 09:39 PM
 
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I think we disagree on many things. To me, luck is part of life but it is not a major determinant of a person's career success. It is part of it but not the totality.

The type of parenting described by the OP can be detrimental to a person's career. If you teach your kids to settle for "good enough" because it is too much trouble to be excellent that will change a person's career success. If you take two people faced with similar situations (bad luck, good luck, no luck) the person who is used to shooting for excellence will usually come out ahead of the person who says 'good enough.'
But that doesn't mean that the tiger person is happier. Again, there is no one definition of "success".
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Old 08-28-2014, 09:40 PM
 
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Did you even read the post your quoting? You want it to be luck because that means you have no responsibility for how your life has turned out. That is your issue.
Why do you have to be so rude, just because I have a somewhat different philosophy from you?

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