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Old 08-25-2014, 01:06 PM
 
Location: Foot of the Rockies
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This is what teenagers do ... their phones are glued to their hip.

Why do you let ANYONE put you in a bad mood? You need to work on that. Don't blame your bad mood on anyone else.

How is it that you think you can expect ANY teenager to act like an adult?
Oh, for pity's sake!

Spare the pop psychology! These teens are guests in the OP's home, had their way paid from somewhere in the midwest to DC. They could be a little social.

I agree the OP doesn't really need to "entertain" them, though I think he means he and his wife take them to the sights in DC. I agree with Dew that they could take the metro. I have a good friend who lives in the DC area. We often visit them on our vacation. When we were all younger (now they are retired) they'd go to work and we'd take the metro into the city for the day.

The moodiness, now that is teen behavior, and often ignoring it will make it go away.

 
Old 08-25-2014, 01:06 PM
 
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Not at all.




Yep.


That said, it IS a matter of your house, your rules.
So... no eating in the bedrooms, for example, if that is what you want from your guests.


I would never fight with a guest of any age. And, 16-18 is a little late to impose discipline. So if your nieces and nephews haven't learned the art of being a house guest, stop opening your house to them.
 
Old 08-25-2014, 01:13 PM
 
Location: Waxhaw, NC
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I would lay it out this way:

We have few, but important rules we'd like to have respected when in our home. We love having you here, but should these rules not be followed, you will not be welcome to come back until you show respect.

The rest is up to them and determines if you have to put up with it or not in the future.
 
Old 08-25-2014, 01:19 PM
 
Location: Foot of the Rockies
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I would never fight with a guest of any age. And, 16-18 is a little late to impose discipline. So if your nieces and nephews haven't learned the art of being a house guest, stop opening your house to them.
True, but there is nothing wrong with having some "house rules", e.g. no phones at dinner, or put your dishes on the kitchen counter, or please don't let the cat out, or whatever.
 
Old 08-25-2014, 01:34 PM
 
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Why do you let ANYONE put you in a bad mood? You need to work on that. Don't blame your bad mood on anyone else.
Read his other threads. This attitude permeates this OP's existence and that of his entire family, according to his posts.
 
Old 08-25-2014, 01:43 PM
 
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True, but there is nothing wrong with having some "house rules", e.g. no phones at dinner, or put your dishes on the kitchen counter, or please don't let the cat out, or whatever.
I agree, and that's why I gave the to Pitt Chicks response that said so.
 
Old 08-25-2014, 01:45 PM
 
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My wife and I are in our early 60s and have nieces and nephews between 16-18 years old stay with us on occasion. They travel from the Midwest and enjoy a change of scenery by living with us for a week in the Washington DC area. We put them up in our home, pay for their airline ticket, pay for food and drink and entertain them. They want to come out and stay with us.

On occasion they act like spoiled teenagers and can be moody, uncommunicative, bossy and just plain difficult. Is it our role to attempt to straighten them out and tell them to clean up their act? Or should we just tolerate somewhat typical teenage behavior as long as they are not breaking any laws?

Put yourself in our shoes, what would you do?
Do you really have these nieces and if so why would their parents let them anywhere near you?? For their sake just tell them no.
 
Old 08-25-2014, 01:47 PM
 
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Oh, for pity's sake!

Spare the pop psychology!.
Mom is that you?
 
Old 08-25-2014, 01:48 PM
 
Location: St Thomas, US Virgin Islands
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Read his other threads. This attitude permeates this OP's existence and that of his entire family, according to his posts.
It's never-ending with more creative scenarios churned out than Carter has little liver pills ...
 
Old 08-25-2014, 01:49 PM
 
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Read his other threads. This attitude permeates this OP's existence and that of his entire family, according to his posts.
Ahh thanks for the info! I don't tend to follow the names much other than the very clear freaks of nature on here, which I usually decide to ignore LOL
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