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Old 12-25-2007, 12:25 PM
 
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I'm sorry for the bad english, my mother thong is not the english language,

My son (8 age) have a good friend who live near us, and he comes almost every day to play with my son.
They have lots of toys and games to play with, but almost always finely they begin with the play fights, what would you do if you see your son lay flat on the floor and his friend who is stronger then him sit on him untill he gives up?
Of course i hate to see them fight, even it's just a play fight. I want to stop it but i continent, i don't know if that is the right thing to do. And maybe i have to let them fight?
My son too don't want me to stop the game, he told me that he like to fight.
What do you think about that?

today i understand why i want just daughters, but right now i have just two sons :-)

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Old 12-26-2007, 11:15 AM
 
Location: Florida
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The problem is....they will get older and the physical fighting will become more violent as they have disagreements. I have a girl and a boy who used to do the same thing. I guess it's what they see on television or what they find entertaining. Maybe you could enroll them in wrestling or karate so they will get rid of their energy in a safe way.
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Old 12-26-2007, 03:55 PM
 
Location: Chicago 'burbs'
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I don't allow the kids to play too rough, even though my husband loves the "rough housing". Someone always ends up mad or hurt!
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Old 12-27-2007, 08:09 PM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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It is your home and this makes you uncomfortable. There is nothing wrong with you making a rule that you don't want any rough play in the house. Boys will be boys, but if your son is always the one on the bottom, then I doubt if he enjoys the fighting either. Do I think that parents should interfere with every little squabble kids get into? No, but if something makes you uncomfortable it's probably for good reason.
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Old 12-28-2007, 02:51 PM
 
Location: Arizona
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My little brother was like this with his friends. Boys love to let each other know how tough they are! BUT there should be boundaries to their rough housing.
My dad decided that Tae Kwon Do would be best for my bro & that tought him that fighting should be disciplined.

I would just let him know that he can't be fighting around at school & set boundaries to their horseplay at home.

I will have these issues sneaking up on me real soon with my 4 year old son! And he is ALL boy!
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Old 12-28-2007, 04:09 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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It's your decision. There is nothing "wrong" with play fighting except for, in my experience, the majority of the time someone "accidentially" gets hurt. If this isn't the case, they really aren't hurting anyone! If you are really against it, I agree with maybe enrolling them in tae kwan do or something to harness the energy.
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Old 12-29-2007, 09:55 AM
 
Location: California
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I don't see a problem with it, it's a natural thing.
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Old 12-29-2007, 02:25 PM
 
Location: The #1 sunshine state, Arizona.
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If one child if pummelling another and you as an adult do nothing to stop the fight, that is called child abuse in the United States.
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Old 12-30-2007, 07:23 PM
 
Location: Orlando
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My brothers, sister and I did this all the time and we turned out fine....none of us are violent.
You'll know when it gets serious and you can stop it then.

I do like the karate and/or wrestling idea.
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Old 05-08-2009, 04:06 PM
 
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If one child if pummelling another and you as an adult do nothing to stop the fight, that is called child abuse in the United States.
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